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To just not be ok? There’s nothing really wrong and nothing bad has happened yet I’m weepy and sad and angry and frustrated and panicked and lonely and intolerant of peopling right now and all at once. I think I’ve just found Christmas and the build up to it too overwhelming and I’m just not coping now.

There’s a lot going on in my head that I need to sort mentally but nothing that requires this type of hormonal and emotionally irrational response.

Don't worry, Christmas is nearly over!

Are you able to hide in your bed with a good book/comforting TV?

@JollyGiraffe, not at all. I’m a student at uni and while I’ve been away my mum has taken to using my room as a storage space. I can hardly take three steps in there.

She also took my TV

I'm sorry that you are feeling so low and I'm sorry your DM has taken over your room.
We've always kept/will keep the DC's room whilst they are at Uni as we don't consider being at Uni as having left home yet.
DD1 hasn't come home since finishing in the summer and has a job in her Uni city.
We have rearranged the room and use her cupboards for storage but she knows that the bed is always available and she can come back home if she really needs to.

Have you spoken to your DM about how you feel and, if the TV belongs to you then say you are a bit taken aback that she has borrowed it without asking if you mind.

I think you need to try and talk.

Try talking to your Mum and tell her how you feel. She might not realise how much is going on in your head but will want to help if you reach out to her.

I've tried, but she is the eternal martyr. I don't realise how hard everything is for her, her life is so difficult and I'm making it worse. She's lovely and I know she loves me but she has generalised anxiety and OCD which leads to hoarding. But not her things. Mine she's currently having a cry because I'm selling unwanted Christmas presents from the last few years that I have no use for. Old teddies, broken bracelets that I was given 20yr's or so ago by a little boy a year or so older than me video tapes despite the fact we no longer have a video player.

She knows I've got a lot going on, but she has more apparently and by asking for basic respect and treatment is unreasonable.

There is no chance of me getting my TV back and yes it's mine I bought it last year when I bought the rest of my bedroom furniture including my bed. Hers broke and while she was waiting for it to be fixed she asked if she could use mine. Which is fair enough so I said ok. I came home during the summer to find she'd had hers fixed and took it to the holiday cottage as hers was bigger than the one there and mine was bigger than hers. Now she's wanting me to take the teeny tiny non-smart TV thats worth less than a third what I paid for mine because I'm not here all the time and she is.