AIBU to think that grandparents should treat grandchildren equally?

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Flyingdaisy · 29/12/2018 16:53

Always have done, but this year, no card or gift to one set of grandchildren. This grandparent divorced and remarried, with nc from dau, now no card or gift to the children of this dau, but same as usual to other dau and grandchildren. Always been something for all the grand kids at Xmas for 18 years.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 29/12/2018 16:59

Sorry what's dau? Is this yours or your husbands parent?

StillMe1 · 29/12/2018 17:00

Are you NC with your daughter or parent. I don't know how you can expect presents from people you go NC with

knittedjest · 29/12/2018 17:03

Relationships are a two way street. You can't go no contact with somebody and still expect gifts from them. Most people have more pride than to send gifts and essentially pay in order to remain in somebodies life in a material way.

BarbarianMum · 29/12/2018 17:04

Um I think if you go nc with someone you cant then expect them to send your dc gifts. No contact is exactly that.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 29/12/2018 17:07

What dau? So you've gone NC and are cross because they haven't sent a present?
Is that right sorry if not. I can't make out what's going on.

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Flyingdaisy · 29/12/2018 17:13

I am the dau and have been nc for 25+ yrs. I have surmised that the grandparent decided to stop gifting these grandchildren as a result of this, although timing is weird. Will draw a line and let it go in light of comments.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 29/12/2018 17:15

I don't understand you. You've been NC for 25 years? I don't know what dau either.

NikiFree · 29/12/2018 17:16

Dau = daughter?

Agree though if you're NC why do you want presents?

Confusedbeetle · 29/12/2018 17:25

If you would like your children to have some contact with the grandparents which might be a good thing, then maybe some bridges could be built. Are they old enough to write cards and letters? It would be sad if they had no contact unless there was a good reason. If they have previously sent presents have you acknowledged them/sent thank you cards?

GimmeGimmeHellYeah · 29/12/2018 17:58

You've been no contact with your parents for 25 years but during this time they have always sent cards and gifts for your children. This year they haven't and you are wondering why that might be?
Is that right?

Have your children had contact with their grandparents other than receiving gifts? How old are your children now?

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