Who’s being unreasonable over buying 5 year old a telly !

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My daughter is turning 5 shortly ( her dad is in and out her life like a yo-yo, never done any of the hard work at all but that’s a whole other story )

• she has had significant health problems which means she spends more time than most in bed ( connected to things )

I found that she was usuonf tablet to play games when she had to go bed earlier ) which means to her not going to sleep at actual bed time well. When we watch a movie in the living room Before bed she goes down fine. Anyway, she asked for a tv for her birthday for her bedroom and after thinking about it I thought it wasn’t a bad idea to let her watch movies in there instead. So I was looking for a TV, I was going to get this 24inch / dvd combi BUT it was 150 pound and in the Boxing Day sales I managed to pick up a 32 inch smart tv with dvd combi for 165 ! So thought it was better value for money ( she could watch films on Netflix and amazon prime ) Anyway ... her dad asked me what I had for her ( he bought her a small token gift ) and has competent flipped at the idea of her having the telly in her bedroom. It’s last parenting apparently. I explained that sometimes I have to put her to bed at 5pm !! Or she is stuck in bed until 11 am and unfortunately some times there is stuff I have to do like washing etc.

Wouldn’t normal have a tv in bedroom for five year old but your daughter circumstances mean her bedroom is her living room for long periods. You made the right choice op.
Also I am looking for a 32 inch dvd combo where did you get it from? Thank you !

No so we read lots and fonganes etc in bed my flat is quite small so i am never far away, I would also lie with her and watch movies etc.
But unfortunately as well as all her cares etc I still need to the washing / tidying I actually have to keep a pretty immaculate kitchen etc as I prepare IVs in there.
I also have boxes of stock I have to do through so there is sometimes when unfortunately I do need to be able to leave her in the room.

My kids are seven and two and they will not be having a TV in their room however in your circumstances yes I don't think it's unreasonable and he should walk in your shoes a few days then see what he thinks

Oh actually she did ask for something else 😂... rainbow glitter dr martens 😂😂

The TV was from curry’s

In normal circumstances I wouldn’t like a 5 year old to have a tv in their room, but in your circumstances I think it’s a very good idea. Ignore her dad; he’s just annoyed his ‘small token gift’ is just that.

Normally I wouldn't but under the circumstances for you and DD, it sounds like it will brighten up her life a little.

You are caring for her and having to meet additional needs and he sounds clueless.

Do what you have to do for the family you have.

Oh gosh, if she's in bed a lot with a chronic health issue tell him to fuck off.

Hope you had a great Christmas.

Tell the wanker that when he acts like a proper father he gets to be involved in parenting decisions, and until then, he can butt out!

sometimes when unfortunately I do need to be able to leave her in the room nothing wrong with that OP. DS won't get a telly in his room til his teens at least but in your circs I'd have done what you did. Does he want her sitting there in silence??

Probably 😂he really doesn’t have a clue ! He sees her max 4 times a year for 10 hours.

I'm usually against giving children TVs in their room, but this is so obviously one of those exceptions where it's absolutely the right thing to do.

And calling anyone's parenting lax when he is a parent but does none of the parenting just makes him a huge arsehole no matter the circumstances.

Normally I'd suggest that maybe he was in denial a bit about your dd medical issues, but that comment makes me think he's just a prick. Ignore. Do what's best for your child.

Your main mistake was telling him what you bought her. Or explaining that you need to put her to bed early. Learn to be vague and deflect his questions unless it's something he needs to know if he's looking after her. He's just throwing his weight around because it makes him feel less guilty, he can feel he's looking out for her by annoying you.

You will obviously monitor it and if it doesn't work out change it.
I would normally be no tv in bedroom too but this is an unusual situation.
Don't let her spend more time in bed because of it though. She should still be upright and mobile as much as she can.
Sounds like you are doing a great job. Lazy parent needs to look in the mirror. Idiot

Hopes she gets her boots and can make god use of them x

My daughter is 7 and in a similar position health wise. She recently got a tv in her room (18 year old brother went to uni and she ‘inherited’ it).

In normal circumstances I would’ve avoided it until she was an older teenager but they do get used to a bedside telly in the children’s hospital and on a bad day she has no energy to read or craft, and would otherwise just lay there staring into space. At least the TV gives her positive things to think about (it’s not hooked up to an aerial - we’ve not had proper telly since the analogue signal was switched off).

Anyway, you are not being unreasonable and your ex needs to shut his yap.

Hope the introduction to school goes well for your daughter - my DD will be doing an hour a day 4 days a week in the new year, anxious times!)

Thanks op will look at Curry’s now.

Thankyou I will keep the telly !
I have worked really hard to give her a “ nice bedroom “
With lots to do in their and comfy !

On the whole I agree with him and there's stacks of evidence to back us up from social maturity and intelligence to achievement at school plus millions of pages of anecdata.

My opinion could change as you mention your daughter's health problems but that could be because she's the exception and not the rule.