Worried about my Adult dd mental health

[Darkestnight]

She is 18 years old and disabled. Has learning difficulties Adhd and other physical disabilities.

I am her carer and the last year or so she has had cbt therapy and counselling at college.
She gets very very angry and then very very emotional and worries about everything.
Seems cbt therapy has not worked and yesterday she had a almighty flip out and I called her mental health team straight away and they are referring her for tier two treatment.

I think she has bipolar but gp I spoke to yesterday said was more Adhd. Bipolar runs in my family I don't have it but likely dd has.

I'm a wreck I'm tired I work part time. Dd has no friends but is at college full time. We have tried to get her involved in different things but it never lasts.
She can go out by herself and I'm always there to help when I can.
I can't take it no more I have ocd and anxiety myself.
She is angry and depressed and never seems to listen to anyone.

She is going to the gp in January to talk about medicating her as she needs something now to help her cope.

I feel like I've let her down by going back to work but I need my own life back Aibu for feeling like this

She's starting again

You sound like you have a lot to cope with. Don’t feel guilty about going back to work. She needs a mum who is functioning too and if that means going to work, having a break, meeting other people, having a rest (because many see it as a rest!), and feeling independent by earning your own money and having a feeling of empowerment. Then don’t feel guilty! She needs a mum who can, for want of a better word, cope with her.

I hope that her appointment in January brings some answers. Remember a diagnosis of bipolar can take up to 10 years to be diagnosed. I was luckily, I was diagnosed in 18 months. The medication I’m on has done wonders for me. But that took trial and error with others first.

You sound like a fantastic mum, who is doing her best to provide the best care and support to her daughter. Don’t put yourself down x