What does this mean???

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I have a DP and a DS with him.

I was just messaging someone I have a short history with to congratulate him on some big news he's just shared.
I heard my phone go and got excited and rushed to it and then saw it was my DP instead of other guy and felt disappointed??? It was an unexpected feeling. Am I thinking too much into it by feeling like a bad person??

I wouldn’t read too much into this once incident. How are things generally with your DP?

@Pachyderm1 okay, I guess. By the book they're great, but I find myself feeling a bit bored and trapped with him occasionally, I kind of assumed it was a fairly common feeling in LTR.

Anyone??? I'm feeling bad about this still. I'm finding myself checking my phone to see if he's messaged.

Stop checking your phone and do something with your family. No one is going to encourage you to start an affair!

How are things generally in your relationship? Perhaps you were disappointed because you wanted a reply from the other man rather than feeling deflated it was your DP texting. I guess all LTR will go through periods of being stagnant, but you need to do something about it to ensure you get through it. For example, could you plan a date night once a month?

If you're getting that excited about contact with another man I'd cool it down immediately.

Most affairs start unintentionally with attraction being ignored until you get into a position where it seems like a good idea. (It never is).

If you don't love your DP any more, or need more attention from him then you need to have that conversation.

In and of itself its not a big deal, me and DH text all the time sometimes I'll be more excited to hear from someone I don't speak to as often, doesn't mean I'd want to share my life with that person instead of DH.

It's hard to say without more context. Most messages I get from my husband are very mundane (e.g. about grocery shopping) so I'd naturally be a bit disappointed if I was expecting an interesting message from a friend, and found instead 'Do we need to get more brown sauce?'

Being bored and trapped is not how everyone feels in LTR’s OP. Definitely sounds like you aren’t happy.

In the words of Ellie Goulding, ‘stop checking your phone looking for the answer’.

This man is not the solution you are perhaps hoping he is.

If this was over on the relationships board the answers would pretty much be consistent. Maybe post there?