To expect people to update on threads?!

[grumblina]

I hate reading a thread where someone is ill/fallen out with someone etc and then the thread just stops and the op doesn't tell us what happened in the end!!

AIBU?!

YANBU

I always assume that when they've fallen out with someone and they never come back its because the situation escalated and the OP attempted to kill them and was arrested.

It mildly satiates my need to live for other people's drama.

I like that theory!!

I also like to imagine a situation in fifteen years here the OP comes back to update

"Thanks for the replies everyone. After CF neighbour didn't return my scarf despite my vague hints via my dog walkers niece, who knows her sons lecturer, something inside me snapped, so I chucked a molotov cocktail through her kitchen window. Anyway, I've spent the last 15 years banged up for attempted murder, but I'm so glad I stood up for myself. Thanks for all the advice!"

Mn is not bbc Iplayer. You can't just casually log in and expect threads to carry on from where you last left

YANBU. If people have given time and thought to advising you, it's courteous to update them on how things turned out.

I'd update the threads I've been on but they get buried. Maybe tomorrow when I've a spare ten mins I'll update them all just in case there are people waiting eagerly for an update

YANBU to wish that they would but posters have no obligation to sate our curiosity sadly

Sometimes I would really like to know if things worked out for posters but there are so many stories that we'll never learn the outcome.

I admit I've been worrying about a few OPs in the last few days, I think some of the worst threads get closed down so we don't always find out what's happened.

I'm probably an old cynic who's been on MN too long, but I reckon an awful lot of those threads are made up, so you're never going to get an update as the situation they post about didn't happen in the first place. I certainly don't waste much time worrying about posters these days whereas I would've done a few years ago when I was new on here.

But I agree that if they are genuine it's just good manners to update posters who've in good faith given advice & support.

Depends what the thread is. If it is something like"I feel like killing dh" you sort of want an update to make sure everyone is still alive. However if it is "my kitten did the funniest thing" there probably isn't any more to say.

I'm probably an old cynic who's been on MN too long, but I reckon an awful lot of those threads are made up

I agree.

I agree. On threads where the OP says that they have fallen out with friend/relative/school mum and have messaged X y z. But then there is no update it annoys me.

YANBU.

Yanbu there was one someone leaving their partner before Xmas I can’t find it now

I completely agree with you - unless it involves the word 'Boswell' anywhere in the thread, in which case I absolutely do not want to see a single further update for as long as I live.

Some of the CF threads are quite disappointing, though, when the OP says what they're going to say/do to confront the CF and call them out - and then we never get to hear of the method selected by the CF by which to keep digging themselves further into their own hole of completely self-inflicted eventual mortification (we hope)

I'm probably an old cynic who's been on MN too long, but I reckon an awful lot of those threads are made up

I agree.

I agree too, but that's only the same as Agatha Christie did - and you'd still be massively disappointed if you discovered that somebody had ripped out the last page, though

Posthistoricmonsters - the worst ones are usually taken down because MNHQ believe them to be made-up, or the occasional real one has ended up in the national press and the OP is trying to protect themselves - neither are going to be updated.

The reality is that the people want updates on the more dramatic threads, and whilst I understand that, and assuming the thread is true (most are far too dramatic to be believable) the OP is usually posting in a time of crisis and probably stops posting while they try to pull their life back together.

A large percentage of AIBU posts are just froth-bait which either get pulled or run their course. Often the only time you you see the OP is in the initial post and you can still get pages and pages of responses to a juicy post. I picture the OP sitting in a darkened room surrounded by creepy dolls rubbing their hands as the responses get more and more heated. I rarely invest more than one post unless the OP engages.