Parents and anniversaries

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Is it usual for parents to acknowledge their offspring's wedding anniversary? Celebrate it? Offer to babysit even? Or nothing, no mention, despite being involved in the wedding itself.

My DP don’t remember our anniversary but my DPIL do which is handy because we always forget
It’s nice to get a card but really the only people who should care about a wedding anniversary are the people who got married.

I consider wedding anniversaries (except milestone ones) to only be important to the couple that got married. So, no, I wouldn't expect parents to care/notice. If you want them to babysit, maybe ask?

Op we are same as you. My parents send us a card (live overseas) ILs do not (live here) so reciprocate likewise.

We get a card but I have no expectations really. I never remember theirs 🙈

My parents don't remember ours which is fine as I forget sometimes! And because my parents have never celebrated their anniversary, I have no idea when they got married. I could not even tell you what month.

probably first anniversary then only 25, 40, 50 and 60, it was my parents golden wedding last year they got presents cards etc , I sent nothing this year for 51 years, they don't send me anything for our anniversary either, my sister will have silver wedding anniversary in 18 months I will send them something I have not for any previous anniversary

We got cards for the first few years, then nothing apart from the big anniversaries, 20, 25, 30.

We still get a card from my aunt whose birthday we unwittingly hijacked with our wedding, but no-one else.

I religiously sent my parents and now DM a card every single year since I was old enough to and she gets really stroppy if I don't, despite not bothering with ours

Both sets of parents send us a card. I usually phone parents and in-laws on their anniversaries

Forgot that we don't celebrate our DS and DIL anniversary either. It's in holiday season and I never remember until afterwards.

My parents do, my husbands parents don't. I don't tend to acknowledge my own if I'm honest. Babysitter wise, I'd have to ask, it's not often a guaranteed thing as my mother is in poor health.

DSis and late DM always did, IL’s didn’t. I send to DSis and DC. Didn’t think it unusual until I read it on MN.

My mum gives us a card. She doesn’t offer to babysit but would if asked. My dad and IL’s don’t remember/acknowledge it. IL’s expect a card posted to them abroad on theirs though, and we get into trouble if we forget.

My parents remember ours and always send a card.
I've always sent a card to my parents on their anniversary too. They got married on Christmas Eve, so highly unlikely to forget.

It’s interesting seeing a different perspective as I always saw wedding anniversaries as something families celebrate together so just assumed that was the norm but I come from a family of Jehovah Witnesses (both sides, parents, grandparents, aunties, uncles, cousins, family friends, etc) Anniverseries are the only thing we celebrated so it was always a family celebration with cards from everyone and parties some years

Neither sets of parents have a clue when our wedding anniversary is. We get one card every year off a friend, which is lovely but a little odd really. A DH card, DW card then one extra random card on the mantle

We don't even mark our own let alone anyone else's

Ours has always been remembered by our parents, card and some cash in the envelope so we can go for a meal. My father died twenty odd years ago, and I always send my mum the flowers on her anniversary that were in her wedding bouquet. She loves to remember him.