To be annoyed by parents that..

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.. follow their kids around at the park not letting them do anything incase they get their clothes dirty?
There's always a a handful of them every single time I take the dc's to the park.

Why would you take kids to a muddy park in clothes you don't want to get dirty???

I had to stop going to one playgroup with dc2 because of all the pfb parents who wouldn’t let their now mobile dc off the carpet area to play with the sand, paint, angel delight. I used to leave dc in his vest and he loved playing with paint and water, but the looks and tuts I got off those parents just made the visits uncomfortable.

Maybe they want to teach their children good habits early on? Rolling around in the mud really isn’t a good thing to do. I let my children get absolutely filthy because it takes less effort to wash their clothes than to parent them properly so not biased

Following on from a previous thread. Are the parents who try to keep their kids clean working class and the ones who let them roll in mud, middle class ...

A previous poster suggested that MC kids looked scruffy, whilst WC were more likely to look pristine ...

I'm fascinated by parents that do this. There's a couple of school parents whose children wear smart cloths and shoes and aren't allowed to walk off the path. Mine are usually trying get up trees.
I wonder if they're the sort of families who have tidy houses because the dc's do as they're told .

I know what you mean op.
A friend of mine was like this. Her daughter couldn't even go in the sandpit incase she got sandy . This even applied to her sandpit in their garden.
My children ran and jumped around ourside and frequently got sandy, a bit muddy and wet.
Our parenting styles were so different the friendship sadly didn't survive. I could never restrict how my children played in the way she did.

Yes, it absolutely does my head in. Kids need to be kids and need to play and get dirty. One October half-term I arranged with a friend to meet up in the park (which is in the middle of a field) and her 2 year old turned up dressed all in white!!
I once had a friend who told my 2 year old DS1 off for splashing her son in the pool.
Don't bring him swimming then (I think we'd even gone to toddler splash time).

I’ve told my DD not to get wet/dirty at the park if we’re on the way somewhere and the alternative is her sitting in wet clothes for the rest of the day. If we’re going straight home I don’t care how mucky she gets.

My Sil follows her daughter, 2, around ready to catch her all the time, doesn't let her jump in the swimming pool either, I just despair

Considering tis the season, maybe they are visiting relatives afterwards or something

I am usually just watching my own

On behalf of all parents whose children may have hidden disabilities - you judge away. I “helicopter parent” DS at the park and it has fuck all to do with his clothes looking nice. But you wouldn’t know that to look at us.

I think this is related to another thread there was about how some children are more messy than others

I would.almost.never be that parent because I pretty much always let DS be quite messy/ scruffy even on special occasions ( except maybe funerals)

On a few memorable occasions when he was a todder I sat with an umbrella in the rain and let him actually sit and roll in puddles for ages . If it kept him happy and didn't hurt/ impinge on anyone else it was fine with me. I did learn to always have at least one change of his clothes with me until he was about 7-8 years old though.

Once on a beach in Cornwall, DS came back absolutely coverf head to toe in mud/ wet sand inclidong his hair . I really had no idea how he managed it and couldn't see any other children who looked like that. He has just been rolling in the wet bits beside the surf. Digging in it and covering himself and rolling in it

We walked along the beach looking for a shower and passed a policeman who silently pointed to the nearest showers as soon as he saw DS and said ' I imagine you are looking for those'

I don't get annoyed with parents who want children to.be Moe careful though. Just wish I had the energy to bother

Some parents struggle to realise that their kids are not dolls and still get a kick at playing dressing up hoping to make other parents envious. There were a few like this when my kids were little. They were the first ones to moan when their kids became teenagers and expected to be dressed in the most expensive latest trends they couldn't afford.

@megletthesecond I'm probably that parent! I don't let my kids walk on the grass at school. Mainly cos it's slippery and I've had it before now they're slipped over on the way into school and had to spend the day with an arse caked in mud. It's also about showing a bit of respect. It's not nice to go into school waltzing mud all over the floor.

In the park, I couldn't give a shit really. I do follow my kids around, because my youngest tries to copy his big brother and tends to get stuck! I will comment sometimes that they've got themselves mucky, but it's nothing taking shoes and coats off in the porch and the washing machine can't handle.

I follow my child about and helicopter parent because of hidden Sen. No sense of personal ability and wont ask for help. Any scrapes, dirt and wet clothes preoccupy for the day/ outing and it is ruined for everyone. Why don’t you just get on with enjoying your own day and stop being so bloody judgemental....