I really need advice as this has been winding me up all day (I'm off work so too much time on my hands to dwell on it!)
My partner has always been quite pushy when it comes to getting his own way, and unlike me, doesn't have any guilt issues about being selfish, so if he wants to do something, he'll just go ahead do it and sod the consequences, as long as he gets his own way.
Most of the time this isn't a problem, I just let him crack on and it doesn't cause too many issues, but because he doesn't drive, sometimes, he brings me into his plans because he needs a car do certain things, so he treats me like his fucking taxi!!
The latest thing he's done is to arrange to see a friend that now lives abroad. I've only met him once and haven't seen/spoke to him in over 10 years! I've never met his wife. I don't dislike him, but I'm not really that keen to see him that I want to spend 2 hours in the car driving there and back!
OH has organised to 1) meet with friend an hour away from our house 2) arranged date of meeting 3) agreed that me and DD will go with him to said meeting. 4) agreed that we'll all go for a meal.
All of this was arranged behind my back and he didn't bother to mention it to me until 2 days ago. Straight away I made it clear I didn't want to go, but he is insistent that I 'make the effort'. Today he is speaking about it all like it's a done deal and we're going. The only reason I suspect that he's so bothered is because he can't get there without me driving.
He is starting to make a bit of a habit of doing things like this and is also getting very manipulative and even verbally abusive when he doesn't get his own way. It's really pissing me off. Do I refuse to do it and spend the next couple of days arguing with him (like last time) or do I go along with it?
What would you do?