What shall I make of this then?

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I don't know if it's because Christmas is an emotional time, I'm being very sensitive or actually they are knobs...even if I was hideous should they say it..?
An extended member of family made a remark about my looks then his son 'joked' to me about a mad scientist having invented me with bolts etc
Really gobsmacked as it came out of nowhere and to be fair I'm tall and used to be very attractive but I've put on around 4 stone partially through being maybes slightly depressed an pre occupied with my child having a serious illness (yes this has changed me as a person but for the better as I have alot more care for others ).
I'm gutted...I love this person but I can't get how they've made me feel out of my head.
I'm always the one to include them all and go out of my way to be kind to them...
I'm starting to think I should reavaluate myself and realise I really shouldn't be as confident as I am and I'm naive to think people take you for your personality. ?
Can weight gain really make someone into 'a monster' in someone else's eyes,??
I can't believe this has had tarred my Christmas...furious at myself for letting it

There's a peculiar social convention around weight gain, which seems to give people licence to be critical because overweight people could change their weight if they tried.

The outcomes for those following commercial diets are, in facet, pitiful over the long term - restricting food intake can get your weight down over the short term, but you are very likely to put it back over the longer term, and probably put even more on as well.

Overweight people are seen as morally reprehensible, and to 'deserve' insults.

None of this excuses anyone joking about your looks and encouraging his son to do the same. You say you've gone out of your way to put him at his ease i n the past. You're obviously a much better person than he is!