Family discussing us behind our back

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We have had my fiancé's grandparents up for Xmas. They leave tomorrow and I found out from my parents that they have been discussing my fiancé and I finances behind our backs. My parents help us out with a bit of debt we had at the start of the year however we paid back every month and paid it back quicker than we thought. We borrowed some money from the grandparents last month due to things being tighter than we thought. Are we unreasonable to be pissed off that they are discussing us?

I would say this is one of the costs of borrowing money from family unfortunately. It’s not really kept under wraps for long and leads to speculation about why you’re short of cash etc. But then you don’t have to pay interest or fill out a million forms so t kind of balances out.

What was said? Was it rudeness or is it more the fact that you were discussed that you don’t like?

It was more rudeness from my parents. I am annoyed they discussed it instead of talking to us about it instead. I won't be doing it again but my parents are quite judgemental as they have always had lots of money and can't see why we would ever need to borrow

To be honest if you've had two loans this year, one from your parents and one from your boyfriends grandparents then I'm not surprised people are talking about you.

Don't you have credit cards?

No I don't have credit cards as it does happen often and don't want to rely on them due to seeing friends in trouble with then

Be honest: are you upset because they have good reason to discuss you?

You have debts and loans from family. Yes, you are minimising that here but the truth is you have made it their business.

If they’ve all lent you money, they have every right to discuss your financial situation. Think of it like a loan company doing a credit check.

If you don't like it, don't borrow. Maybe they're concerned with how you're managing money. So much so you had to borrow it from two family members within the year.

You have borrowed twice in a year. Hardly surprising they 're discussing you

Thank you for everyone's comments as said we won't be doing it again

What were they for, the loans?

Everyone talks about their family when they are with other bits of family.
What else do they have to talk about?

Frankly they're probably looking around them at the stuff you're spending money on and seeing excess. Just a guess - we all have more stuff than our parents' generation had and will be judged accordingly if we then ask them for money.