AIBU for just not giving an absolute shit or care in the world anymore?

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Sorry for the rant! I have NC'ed for this as it is quite open! I just wanted to get it out there and let off some steam

I'm sick to death of worrying and caring about everything and everyone that quite obviously doesn't care about me. I used to constantly worry when my DH goes out and does not answer his texts/calls when it is late and not bother coming home until gone 6am. I am always moody and caring about people who meet up with others and doesn't bother inviting me. I am fed up of caring that my husband is going abroad to see his family without us for a month, leaving me and my DS alone whilst I juggle work and home life. Before, I was constantly worrying and fretting about how I will manage and I used to have ago at him and hint sarcastic comments like "well you are pissing off and leaving us anyway so it doesn't really matter does it?"

I've already said to my DH I don't care what he does anymore and I don't give a shit if he stays out all night and doesn't bother coming back maybe extreme! Then he said that I should care because he is my husband. I said I don't because you don't care so why should I? Same as him going abroad without us! He is leaving us to spend time with his family without thinking how much I will struggle. He wanted me to "care" and say something, but I just said OK then. I am fed up of letting it make me miserable!

AIBU?! He must think I'm a right selfish bitch! But I am doing this because I am fed up of feeling like it shouldn't matter how I am feeling, so I am starting to do the same to everyone else now!

We cannot go with him either as it is too out of my comfort zone with a young toddler as well

Why should you care about what he's up to when he clearly doesn't give a shit about you? Fuck him. I'd tell him to stay abroad.

Do you want to be with him OP? Doesn't sound like he considers your feelings much.

Let off all the steam you need. A month is a hell of a long time to be apart from a toddler. And 6am? What culture is he from that advocates staying out all night leaving a young family at home?

YANBU at all

He wants you to care where he is/what he does, but he doesn't come home until 6 a.m.? No, I don't blame you for exercising a little emotional self-preservation. If he doesn't like it, he needs to step up and be a better husband and father.

I'm trying to stop giving a shit about certain people. Close family. The old adage 'when someone shows you who they really are, believe them' is going to be my 2019 benchmark.

Do you know for sure he's visiting family? Maybe my suspicious mind but a husband that stays out till 6am then goes abroad for a month without wife and child just sounds off to me. If I was happy in a marriage or relationship I wouldn't want to stay out till 6am or be away from my young family for more than a few days.

Op says it's her anxieties that are stopping her and the child from coming too.

Truthfully? If you won’t go and visit his family with him because “it’s too far out your comfort zone” it’s really not on to make passive aggressive comments because he’s going. You said he’s not thinking about how much you’ll struggle. Why don’t you make plans to deal with the things you’ll struggle with eg, if it’s cooking, fill the freezer in advance. If it’s lonliness, make plans with a friend to visit you.

Don’t be that bitter person.