Graduate role with kids

[ParisBerlin]

I'm a 24 year old mum with twin boys - age 4, I got pregnant at University and after some time off/some time part time. I graduated with my masters in Maths in June.

I went into a graduate job at a bank in September, which is what I always wanted to do. I've been met with backlash on both sides, I have 'Mum friends' and family who think a full time job isn't fair on my sons. Along with people at work who think I can't do the job because I have kids at home, and they were 10 years+ into there careers before they had children.

Am I being unreasonable in thinking that I can do both, I'm performing at work, my kids are in reception and are happy. Yet I feel like I'm being made to feel guilty on both sides.

Ignore them. Well done OP!

Thanks Bishalisha I just feel like over the festive period I've been met with a lot of judgements from family/friends along with the work Christmas party - where it was commented on that I was the only female grad with kids. I feel like I can't speak about my home life at work, or my work life at home (with the exception of with my husband.)

FFS ignore them. They are jealous or in some way just resentful. Your boys will be fine. I finished my legal studies when my 2nd son was a newborn. I’m now earning megabucks, my sons are adults and they are perfectly happy, functioning individuals.

People will always comment on how people parent and what they think should be done. You have done really well to graduate and get a masters and an excellent job whilst also having young children.

You need to congratulate yourself on your achievements and ignore people who criticize you. Trust yourself to make the right decisions for you and your family

Thanks AloneLonelyLoner, hoping to provide my boys with some amazing experiences and a good life :)

Katiecausesmischief Thank you, always hard to not feel like your doing something wrong when people keep acting like you are

OP you are amazing. Ignore anyone who criticises you.

Welcome to the world of the WOHM!
Whatever you do, someone will think you're wrong.

On the other hand - there are also plenty oc people who think you're doing a Great Job.
You're providing a great role model, you're providing financially, you're using your brain in what you want to do.

One WOHM to another - sod the others. You're doing what's right for you.

You are mixing with the wrong people. Loads of my friends have children and successful careers. If anything it will make life easier as you will have more money. If you were in a minimum wage job you'd probably have to work more hours to make ends meet. I suspect there's a bit of jealousy from those who wish they had children /wish they had a career.

You're already an amazing mother with a Masters in maths and getting a graduate role which can be difficult. Be proud of what you've achieved. Those criticising could probably never juggle work with children.

Difficult to even get a grad role that should say.

Honestly OP you have inspired me with my plan!

Actually would you mind popping onto my thread and commenting on the maths and stats elements of the screen grabs?

I’d like to get into a similar to you!

I had my first at 20, 2nd at 25 and 3rd at 26!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3460407-Maths-and-statistics-bods-how-hard-is-this