Sorry another one about adults who won’t drive

[lastqueenofscotland]

Adult in question has a driving licence but won’t get a car as they don’t need one yet are begging for lifts on social media most weekends...

Off on a uni reunion next weekend before one person we were all friendly with gets married next year.

Aforementioned adult said they needed a lift, I wasn’t that close to them but said if they could get to X train station I would pick them up and take them.
Assumed i would be dropping them back at same train station. They’ve just announced they thought I was going to drop them to their home and are being really difficult about it.
A) it will add an hour at least on a totally clear run, onto my drive home

B) it involves driving through a city I hate driving in.
C) I’m not a taxi

Aibu to say it’s my way or the highway, and if they continue to be such a spoilt brat about it age 30 they can forget the lift there too.
I probably am but it’s really pissed me off

Your ‘friend’ is a complete CF and is the type of sponging entitled prat who gives non-drivers a bad name.

I would tell them to do one, but you’re probably nicer and less stroppy than me.

I have no words. Cheekiness to the max. YANBU. 'Sorry your plan doesn't work for me so you'll have to find a different way back'

You don't sound at all happy with my offer of a lift so I suggest that you make alternative arrangements. Also, if you are going to keep bitching at me like a teenager to her mother for the whole reunion then let me know now as it doesn't sound like much fun for me so I might skip it.

He's probably a CF in many aspects not just driving. I know plenty of people who don't drive myself included who wouldn't dream of acting like this person.

Yes, another non driver here and I would say please don't assume that all non drivers take advantage of drivers. The two things don't go together!

If there were no trains on the Sunday I might be more inclined to help out. But the train being a bit slower? Tough tits. That really isn’t your problem.

I would just tell them the entire lift is off given their disgusting attitude. They’ll be “too tired from all the travelling” for work on Monday, will they?? Well, boo hoo poor little petal!!

Just say if you pay me £100, I will drop you home. Otherwise, train station it is.

Okay, after reading your update, that the person is still stroppy, I'd have no problem with responding, 'Forget it, then. Lift cancelled. I was trying to be helpful but am not a taxi service and certainly not in the mood to transport a stroppy person. Best of luck getting there.'

The person will likely still be in a sour mood, sulking and sighing like a toddler or even trying to guilt you into taking them all the way and I just wouldn't want him or her putting a damper on my day so would cancel it.

Your friend is a CF generally, blagging lifts off friends, instead of buying a car and running it. You all need to wise up to this friend and start saying no! Hopefully he will get the message and get himself a car, or start being more independent.

They will be late too I bet so you will be waiting around

I bet they will spend the whole weekend trying to persuade/guilt trip you into taking them all the way home! I can imagine how heir thought process came up with the assumption that you would want to go out of your way to take them all the way home!

*cant imagine how their!

I bet they will spend the whole weekend trying to persuade/guilt trip you into taking them all the way home!

And I bet it’s mentioned by them to anyone at the reunion who will listen.

Sounds awful.

I would stop texting and withdraw from her. Go by yourself. If she messages you just say, "sorry I'm not going your way." Its your car. Could you see her adding an extra hour into her journey to drop you off somewhere?

This is about one particular adult who won't drive, not 'adults who won't drive'. Many adults manage not to drive without imposing on their friends and relatives.

This. Not driving doesn't mean your a lazy, cheeky twat.
DH gets asked for lifts all the time from his driving friends and family because they are too tight to pay for petrol and think DH gets it free as he drives a company car.

Not all non-drivers are lift pests. I never learnt to drive,due to the fact that from the age of 12 until my mid 30s I had epilepsy,and wasn't allowed to. By the time I COULD actually legally learn, (36) I'd lost my nerve,and wasn't in a financial position to run a car anyway. But I can safely say that I have NEVER begged lifts,or expected them. Thankfully I have a good public transport service in theatres where I live,so I manage pretty well. But please,don't tar all of us non-drivers with the same brush.