To not like this from FIL

[Bigoystershell]

FIL is a lovely man, get on very well. DH and I spent Christmas Day at his house with other family (he doesn't have a partner) and stayed over.

After everyone else had left, I said I was going to bed as it was really tired. DH was having another drink before bed, in living room with FIL. As I left the room, FIL said to me (in front of DH), bigoystershell you're staying in my room, first on the left, hahaha. I didn't say anything but then DH said to me "come on give him a kiss" (he meant the usual hug/airkiss), but I really didn't want to so went on up to bed after saying goodnight to both.

I'm leaving the next morning we exchanged cordial goodbyes but I didn't feel like the hug/kiss thing. DH commented on it and so I did it (I'm generally not hugely keen on it but mainly me nor doing it was because I felt a bit uncomfortable/peeved with the comment the previous evening).

I'll not mention it and won't make anything of it, but AIBU to feel uncomfortable with this sort of comment? I really don't want to think of my FIL thinking/saying this sort of thing to me, even as a stupid joke.

How uncomfortable for you. It's inappropriate these days, always was in my view but we had to grin and bear it in the old days - we don't have to now thank goodness. It's a sad fact that some people find it difficult to move with the times.

I'd be more worried about your DH's attitude which was totally unacceptable.

No, can't get my head around it-especially your husband.

Why would he tell you to give his dad a kiss-well, ever-but especially after FIL has "joked" about sharing a bed with you!

Morning, are you sure that making jokes about having sex with your son's wife was ever ok? I would have thought most families would find that weird.

We're both a bit hungover today, I think I'll leave it until tomorrow before saying anything. I do feel I need to say to him though that he can't be telling me hug/kiss his dad - the more I think about it the more it's annoying me

While I agree your fil's comment was totally inappropriate, I'd be more disgusted at your husband even thinking that you should give his father a hug/kiss, let alone tell you to do it. Have a word and make it clear that you will not be told to do anything of the sort again.

That is just plain creepy and you need to speak to your OH to have a word with his dad!

I have lost count of the number of times I've bitten my tongue when these so-called "jokes" have been aimed at me... Ha bloody ha...
Nowadays, my hair is grey and my tongue has free rein.

Teainthemorning I'm annoyed at myself for not saying a thing at the time. What I should have said was "FIL did you really just tell me to sleep with you in your room?". Surely that would have had to then promptly a reaction from DH, and let FIL know he was being inappropriate.

As it is, I said nothing and now I'm the only one uncomfortable/annoyed!

You’ll know what to say if he says something similar again Bigoystershell.
Hold that answer in your head for next time.