How chatty/sociable is your 14 year old ds?

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Mine has friends and says he's fine, enjoying school etc. I hear him chatting and laughing when gaming with friends online. But he seems more reluctant to chat with us and a lot of the time I feel like I have to drag conversation out of him. 12 year old dd is the opposite - can't stop her talking and she tells me EVERY but if gossip! Can't help worrying about ds though.

I think it's normal for the age. Mine is a little older at 15 and he goes from the occasional grunt in between Fortnite games to being quite chatty.

I have a 14 year old dd and she's in a big friendship group of boys and girls. The boys vary hugely in their sociability. There's only one out of about 7 boys who is chatty...he'll actually gossip with me and tell me all kinds but he has ADHD.....DD says he's always chatting....the others are huge, silent lurches bless them.

Think I must be lucky, my 14 year old is a chatterbox. He does spend hours on the Xbox, but the moment I suggest we do something together he is happy to oblige & good company.
The 19 year old on the other hand is a nightmare.

Yep same here. We always sound like we re interrogating him as he doesn’t usually provide much information and just answers the question.
An example -
Did you do that presentation at form time yesterday?
No
Oh I thought it was your turn?
It was
So what happened?
Didn’t have time.
Why not?
Assembly
Assembly? You don’t normally have assembly on Tuesdays?
No
So how come...?
..,...and so on argh! Drives us mad.

Sometimes he’ll surprise us and start chatting about things willingly so I know he’s fine really.
I’ve also told him that he needs to converse with grandparents and relatives and not act like above (which he has a tendency to) and given him tips on small talk.

One made a point of finding me after school and talking to me for about half an hour, the other hardly said a word ever. It's the silent one that has gone on to be able to make friends wherever he goes.

Doesn't say much to me up until it gets to 10pm at night and then won't shut up! Tells me everything and asked me about all sorts of stuff - family, Brexit, politics, consent, spots, periods - you name it, he wants to talk about it. He's 13.

Any other time of the day, he'll just talk about football or nothing at all.

That's so reassuring thanks. Charles that is exactly like my ds! We also give him tips on small talk and tell him he has to make an effort to talk to relatives