How often do people really LTB?

[Rodenhide]

I've seen quite a few threads recently, both in AIBU and relationships where the majority of responses are along the lines of " he's obviously not committed, LTB". Obviously, this will sometimes be relevant advice (and I'm not trying to diminish the severity of some op's situations) but how many posters who actually suggest this would really leave someone who they may have had many happy years with over one tiny agreement?
Maybe it's just me but I doubt that if a man posted here about minor marital issues, they'd be told to leave her if she was doing anything less dire than cutting off his testicles and using them as ping pong balls.
Aibu to think that LTB is just ever so slightly overused?

I ltb following mumsnet advice. I really regretted it. I went back and he strangled me twice.

He then left. I was in a fog, fear obligation guilt. Without mumsnet, I would either still be there or dead. I did feel angry towards having followed the advice for a while, I then swung between being grateful, being sad and also feeling that mumsnet had rung the bell for me and I resented that.

I read many threads like mine and I read about staying away and no contact. I read the many posts from women who are happier and in a better place now. I read the sadness and torment of women still living daily with abuse.

It's hard.

Yes some say it unnecessarily. But for many, it absolutely needs to be said and it may be the first time they are hearing it. It can be a rallying cry for them to get out, leave and take back control.

I've seen quite a few threads recently, both in AIBU and relationships where the majority of responses are along the lines of " he's obviously not committed, LTB". Obviously, this will sometimes be relevant advice (and I'm not trying to diminish the severity of some op's situations) but how many posters who actually suggest this would really leave someone who they may have had many happy years with over one tiny agreement

You have conflated the serious and the, in your opinion, trivial. YABU.

Maybe it's just me but I doubt that if a man posted here about minor marital issues, they'd be told to leave her if she was doing anything less dire than cutting off his testicles and using them as ping pong balls

Yeah, it's just you. Again you cite unnamed "trivial issues". YABU.

Aibu to think that LTB is just ever so slightly overused

In the massively generalised circumstances you describe, yes YABU.

The times I have seen LTB used it was more then necessary. It has been jokingly used and when jokingly used it was obvious. When serious it is usually unanimous that the OP needs to leave the bastard due to the serious nature of the thread.

On those threads everyone is very thankful to hear if the OP has actually left him. Usually fearful for the safety if she hasn’t.

Can it be overused, yes. Better to be overused that one time and save someone’s life then to be underused and someone suffer seriously. No one needs to take the advice of ransoms on the internet. They will know if the behaviour they are discussing in the thread is a one off or a series of behaviour. If they are fake or real , I mean the op that is!