To think DN should acknowledge gift

[Loveweekends10]

My DN has two little boys. She lives away in Scotland. We are on Facebook. This is the second Xmas I have sent little gifts for the boys for Xmas. Nothing extravagant just little t shirts and a card. This is the second year I have had no acknowledgement whatsoever. Should this be the last year?

Depends if you send the gifts because you genuinely want the boys to enjoy them or if you send them because it's the done thing.

If it's the first, continue on and just accept you may not ever receive the thanks you want.

If it's the latter, then stop. Personally I think gifts are meant to be given because you genuinely want the recipient to enjoy having the gift, and while it's not the best manners to not say thank you, I'd still be happy knowing they're likely enjoying it.

Its only Boxing day (early hours of 27th) give her a chance. But if you hear nothing than yes. Its not as if she is going to be offended and not talk to you. Or does she thank you via her Mother /Father as in tell Aunty XXXX thank you for the t.shirts when you speak her.

Are you sure she’s definitely received them? Have you got the address wrong?

Cripes that could be me except no FB.

We handwrite thank you cards and we've lots of them to do. We are also busy actually enjoying Christmas. My thank you won't be received by the recipients until the end of the first week in January.

Dd has received gifts through the post.
She will send thank you cards during the next week or so.

Boxing Day is a rad early to have recurved a thank you.

I guess they could have called or text but many do prefer to send a proper thank you card/letter.

They might not have even opened them yet. Give it a week and let them have some downtime before worrying about thank yous.

I think I only notice to be honest because my nephews wife who also had a baby is so prompt at getting back to folks. I don’t think it would have even registered otherwise.

Lack of acknowledgement of guts annoys me too. It’s quite common in our family though- grateful face to face, but nothing if the gift was sent. I tend to send money rather than a gift to nephews / nieces who don’t acknowledge.
Having said all of that, it’s quite early for you to have heard. If it’s bothering you this time next week you could consider a tactful little message to the parents, unless you decide to just chalk it up to experience.

*gifts
but also hate it when guts are not acknowledged.

I am on social media etc but I still generally prefer my DCs to send thank you cards as it feels more personal than a text/Fb message. They enjoy cutting up all of the Christmas cards to make thank you cards, so we wouldn't start until early January! Maybe I'm overthinking, but for that reason I would deliberately not send a message because then it feels pretty pointless to send a card!

It's very early. We try really hard to do "proper" thank you letters but they generally go out early Jan.

Stuff like this just doesn’t bother me tbh. It turns into an endless cycle of thank yous which I honestly just can’t be arsed with.

My brother always gets pissed off about stuff like this but it doesn’t bother him that he sits on his arse while the women slave away in the kitchen all day. Oh but he said thanks for something so he’s a saint.

People have different standards, there might be something you do/don’t do that others find rude. I’d just let it go.

Rude. Ungrateful