To wish we had a couple of hours to ourselves as a couple this week?

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I’ll probably get flamed here but going to get it off my chest anyway.
AIBU to wish that me and DP had even a couple of hours to ourselves over the Christmas period? We have two DC (4.5 & 20 mo) who are lovely children but at very demanding ages and 20mo is ill with a nasty cough which has meant he is struggling to nap, won’t go to bed until we do and is demanding he sleeps in our bed and then coughs all night long, bless him .
We are having a lovely couple of days but it’s so demanding and we haven’t had a minute to chill, even in the evenings as 20mo won’t go to bed.
All of our friends/family seem to have babysitters and be out drinking or socialising at other family/friends houses. We would just love a couple of hours to chill or go and watch a movie.

YANBU at all!

I feel the same. Would love some time to rest.

Sounds really tough. It does get easier as they get a bit older. Hope your younger DC’s cough clears up soon.

Oh yes that's a tough age. Relentless

Yanbu! That’s rotten, your younger DC being so unwell over Christmas - hope he gets better soon!

You would be torn apart for saying this if it was step kids, but it’s ok if they are your own. You are a woman, not a machine!

No, you're not being unreasonable. It's hard. Damned hard. Just the way it is, if you're not the lucky ones who have family fighting over who gets to take your kids (they're generally the ones who are also moaning about the family, the in-laws, and at the same time absolutely oblivious to how much help/free childcare they have, which makes it all the more galling, lol).

It gets better. It can take a while though. . .

That's what having little kids is like. But if we were warned about this the species would die out in a couple of years having a babysitter will be no issue at all but for now prepare for life to be a pain in the proverbial

YANBU. I feel your pain! Our kids were totally wired yesterday and when we finally got some peace to sit down and relax with a drink last night, DH had a bad stomach and spent the night in the toilet!!

YANBU. My DH and I are both off tomorrow and staying at home alone and though I have really enjoyed seeing family the last few days I cannot wait for some time alone!!

It's crap
I know it's not the same but what about having a couple of hours to yourself? Your husband could do the same (obvs not at the same time!)?
A walk, hair done, nice coffee? Whatever you enjoy doing.

By "a couple of hours to ourselves" I think they mean giggidy giggidy times shecamefromgreece rather than some time for a stroll alone

No you aren't at all! I feel the same. I have my DS who is 7 so is at that "know it all" stage 🙄. And I have my DD at 7 weeks, so obviously needs me 24/7 and isn't sleeping well at all.
I would have loved a few hours with my DP... it's been a very different Christmas this year for us. No drinks, no late nights, no evenings alone together.
Don't get me wrong, we have had a lovely time. But sometimes you just need time alone!

We sent ours 2&4 to nursery on Monday, wed paid for it and thought why not they’ve got plenty of time with us coming up let’s have some child free time. It was also lovely yesterday when elder cousins looked after them after dinner whilst we had adult chat. There is nothing unreasonable about wanting a little bit of child free time.

Yeah I feel the same OP

It’s shit

It’s been shit (for us as a couple) every Christmas we’ve had an under 3 year old in the house but we kept having children we are clearly MAD

I keep telling myself one day they’ll be older. Eventually. Won’t find me getting misty eyed over not having the magic of Santa though, I’ll be too busy getting wrecked before midday

We’ve got 3 kids and we said we were going to stay open to the idea of having more but I’m more and more thinking I can’t keep doing this. I need time alone, time with DH, time without the incessant demands of small children!!

Not unreasonable at all. We have had DHs sister and her partner and their kids here as well as our own kids (who don’t sleep well at all) and I don’t think I’ve had two mins alone with DP for a week! And he he is back to work tomorrow 😥