Help me get back downstairs

[Alwayslonging]

Going to be very brief, I'm away with my family and brothers family. Tensions have been building, think it's just not used to spending so much time together. Anyway things came slightly to a head just and now I'm sat in bedroom on my own. How can I get back downstairs without looking stupid? I feel I will feel so awkward going downstairs now, feel I've spent too much to come away to be sat upstairs alone.

Go down and ask if anyone has headache pills?

Just go down, say sorry if you need to, ask if anyone wants a gin!

It depends what happened when you went up really... can’t give you a recovery if we don’t know what you’re recovering from.

Yes pop down and ask if anyone wants a cup of tea/wine/gin - shout from the kitchen if need be.

What happened to send you upstairs?

I spend most family get togethers hiding somewhere, I find tension unbearable.

Its stupid really, DB is one of those people that goes on and on about stuff, not in a horrible way, he often thinks he is funny. He has been having a few comments with DD (21) well this morning she cooks everyone breakfast, there are 10 of us. I never ate, later this afternoon DB points out a greasy tray left uncleaned, I said well those that are should be doing it, he said DD should. So a few comments about it through the day, it remains unwashed. Well just before he tells me he is getting irked by it and my reply was if it's bothering you that much do it your f#cking self, I then left the room and came upstairs. And here I am.

In that case, just go down stairs. You've done and said nothing wrong. It's your DB who's the knob

Just go downstairs, apologise for swearing at him.

Remind yourself your bickering over a tray being washed up and even if he’s being a dick, is it really worth it?

Either wash the tray up or as op said offer a drink and move on.

(Btw I don’t think you should be the one to wash the tray up but at the end of the day you’re both being petty with your stance if “I didn’t eat so I shouldn’t wash up” and his “I didn’t cook so DD should wash up”. Someone just adult up and wash up the tray!)