To be jealous?

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A lot of my friends are getting pregnant/having babies lately (2 babies born this year and 3 due next year) being in our early 20s it’s obviously bound to happen, and I really am happy for them, but I’m also incredibly jealous. I’m getting married in July to the person I’ve been with since we were 13 (now 21) and we’ve always talked about how we’re going to get married and have children so I know it’s not far away, but I’m constantly finding myself In real floods of tears after seeing my friends’ babies because I’m just so upset it’s not me (when I get home obviously, I’ve never ever let in to my friends how I feel).

Sorry for the long, rambling post, I’m just wondering if anyone else has felt this way? Or am I just seriously horrible?

Your not horrible at all but at 21 I wouldn't be worrying about children but enjoying life to the fullest, plenty of time to have children. I was 26 when I had my first and I'm glad I sowed my oats so to speak before kids and marriage.

Look after a baby for a day and then see if you still want one.

Once you have kids, you don't see freedom for a very long time.

I could’ve literally written this post. I’m 25 and one of my friends had a baby in Feb and my best friend is due in January and I’m so jealous and broody that it hurts!

I’ve actually put off seeing pregnant friend a few times because I’m so jealous of her bump and the excitement etc. It’s awful and I wish I didn’t feel it as I am so happy for them! I just wish it was us! So totally get you.

We are also getting married next year and honeymooning in a zika area so won’t try next year but probably will the year after when we’ve saved up more money.

Here’s to another year of broodiness for me, hopefully you will get your turn sooner!

I’m glad it’s not just me then, I’m sure anyone reading this with a screaming baby nearby is shaking their head at me, but I think this might be one of those evolutionary monkey brain things 🙈🙈🙈🙈

Dont worry plenty of time - interesting your friends are all poppin em out in early 20s, mine came at 25 and i was on my own, theyve all started now we've hit our 30s!

PLEASE relax and don't rush into having children. You are SO young, plenty of time for babies. Enjoy being married for a while without children and start building your lives together.

Honestly don't rush and don't worry about it, I'm so glad I waited to have mine. They are amazing but stop you from doing so much stuff you don't even realise until they arrive. Enjoy your time as a married couple first

I am 43, my first child was born when I was 30, my last 40. No rush!
Zika area? Have I seen this exact post before?

Thank you ladies for not laughing me out of here 😂 maybe I do need to relax

Ahh I remember the feeling so well, although I was in my late 20s when I started getting broody. Suddenly it felt like everyone else was having babies and I was the only one not cuddling a little baby. It was tough, especially as my partner wasn't sure about whether or not he wanted kids at all. I didn't have one until I was 32 (had a late loss before that though, which only made me want a baby more) and as hard as the newborn stage was, I do feel more "whole" now, I think. Having said that though, I'm so glad we waited! I loved spending time with my partner (now husband) and doing stuff just the two of us, and I think we're closer as a result. We found that having a baby was really hard on our relationship as we were both knackered and stressed out with a colicky, highly strung baby, that had our bond not been so strong to begin with, it could have done some real damage to our marriage. We still have our moments but now that our "baby" is 2, I feel like we're getting the relationship back on track now, which is ace.

Not sure what I'm trying to say here OP, but I totes know the feeling! I hope you get there when the time is right.

WonderTweek - thank you! Glad it’s not just me 😊

Oh gosh, you are 21. Enjoy this most wonderful time in your life. Babies and children are great and I wouldn't be without mine but they are the hardest job in the world. Please enjoy this time, you will not get it back. Enjoy your wedding, go on holidays not suitable for children, enjoy hobbies that are difficult with children and sleep! Please sleep. Enjoy every lie in 😂

Babies will come when the time is right.