Ex stole from DD

[ThievingBastard]

NC because some details may be a little outing.
Ex told me two weeks ago that he was going to South America for two weeks on 27th, pretty disgusted at the short notice re access for DDs sake but whatever, I got over it.
I’m out of work ill at the moment and things are pretty tight for me and DD (7) so I double checked how he planned to pay maintenance while he was away as he has form for just going off the radar when away and I really can’t go without it.
He gave DD 100 to give me to cover him while away and when DD got in she was excitedly telling me her granny gave her 100 in a card. The card was nowhere to be found and when I rang him and asked he said that 100 is her money so technically he has given it to her 😒

AIBU to think this is the lowest of the low?!

He's low.

How do you OR DD get on with her paternal grandmother?

I had to read that twice.
So his DM gave DD a £100,
How did he decide it was his ?
selfish twat

I am not sure why this is posted in auburn? Because of course this is very low behaviour.

I would tell mil

Would you be able to go to child maintenance options to sort out a proper arrangement?
He can't just give her cash and have that count as maintenance.

How do you OR DD get on with her paternal grandmother?
His side make little effort with her in any real sense, they see her a handful of times a year but are usually generous at Christmas.

I would tell mil
I texted her just to clear up who it was for because DD was confused and upset. No reply which is what I expected.

He can’t just give her cash and have that count as maintenance
No we have a set up but cash sometimes works better over the holidays as we’re different banks so transfers are slow and him being on hols would make him very unreliable.

Ugh I’m just raging on her behalf, she asks for nothing and is so grateful.

It is pretty low of him to involve your young child like that.

If you can’t go without the maintenance, you need a proper arrangement though, especially if you can’t trust him not to play silly buggers like that. Stop putting up with his bullshit and put your foot down!

Banking with different banks doesn’t mean things take longer, I have current accounts with three different banks and can transfer between them instantly whichever country I happen to be in.

I’d take the money off DD though if you need it to pay the bills, explain to her there’s been a mix up and make it up to her some other way.

so he have you £100 for maintenance and then took your daughters money from her grandma essentially taking back that money he gave you for maintenance? Jesus what a dickbag!

So is it £200? £100 from him and £100 gift to DD and neither are to be found? A bit confused. He sounds like an arse either way.

Am I reading this right? Is he claiming that the £100 gift from the GM has become the maintenance?

Just tell him straight that DD brought home £100 from GM - where is his maintenance, please bank transfer asap.

So the grandma gifted DD £100 and he is counting that as a maintenance payment? Have you got an official maintenance agreement? Is he self employed or through PAYE? If the latter I'd go for deductions from his salary. He sounds like a shit.

Take the fucker to court NOW. Force him to cancel his holiday and go without. That'll teach him for trying to play silly buggers with you and his kid.

"The card was nowhere to be found and when I rang him and asked he said that 100 is her money so technically he has given it to her" Sorry OP I'm confused at this, he said 100 is 'her' money so technically he has given it to 'her', is that to DD or his mum? Did granny take the card and money back or what?