To worry about DM?

[oslab]

DM and I have always had a very close relationship. It's always been just me and her really through my childhood. She split with my dad when I was young and never really had a serious relationship after that.

I had my baby young and have moved out with DP and DS. I spend so much time currently worrying about her, whether I'm ringing enough, if she's lonely etc, especially over Christmas.

Am I being too sensitive or do I have a right to worry a bit? I think she's still quite dependent on me and is missing the relationship when it was just the two of us now our relationship is more distant due to circumstances.

Your mum is a grown adult. You have a partner and a child; your mum can't be your top priority anymore. If she is able-bodied and cognitively intact, it's on her to decide what to do with her time.

It's not wrong to call her. It IS wrong to feel that it's totally on you to ensure that she's happy. That's not your responsibility.

@agnurse yeah, that's exactly what I feel and it's not good. I feel so much pressure as I feel I'm the only person she has. It's leaving me feeling guilty so much of the time.

Thanks for your reassurance!

You may like to get some counselling to look at ways to reduce your anxiety.