AIBU to be a little disappointed?

[jade19]

My favourate bit about Chrismas is buying and giving people gifts.
Each year we take it in turns to spend Christmas at mine and my partners parents. This year we spent Christmas day with my mum and boxing day with my MIL. We normally do take our gifts for each side of the family with us and open them together.
This year is our first Christmas with two children so I thought it would be easier to take our gifts over 2 Days before as i wasnt sure if we found fit everything I our small car.
Yesterday my partner came into our room whilst I was getting ready told me that his mum had opened all her presents.
Would any of you be little disappointed? There were some gifts there that i had worked really hard on finding and getting for her and I'm disappointed I didn't get to see her open them.

She opened the Xmas gifts you gave her on Xmas day? Shocker. You don’t get to decide how or when people open gifts.

You are BU

YABU unless you had literally planned to do Christmas MK2 and discussed everything before hand

I would expect gifts that were given verdure Xmas to be opened on Xmas day.

If you want to be there when they are owned, give them on or after the day while you are there.

Umm nope I wouldn’t be. It was Christmas Day after all!

Before* not verdure.

I can understand why you are a bit disappointed. In that situation I would have waited but it was Christmas Day so if you hadn't stipulated she probably didn't give it a second thought

I think I’d be more disappointed if she hadn’t opened them.

If you give gifts before Christmas Day you have to expect them to be opened on Christmas Day unless there has been an agreement not to do so beforehand.

Did she like them though? Surely that is what matters?

It would not have been unreasonable for you to ask her to wait till Christmas Day, but as you didn't, she was not unreasonable to open them.

Sorry - to wait till Boxing Day.

What is this obsession with seeing people open gifts? What are you looking for, them to explode with joy and kiss your feet. It's particularly irritating when adults insist children wait for that reason. As far as I'm aware there is no social etiquette which dictates you wait until the person who gives you a gift is there to see you open it.

YANBU. It sounds like a genuine miscommunication and I'm sure MiL didn't do it intentionally but of course it's disappointing. I'm sure she still appreciated the gifts and you'll know to be more clear next year.

Oh purhlease! Is that all you can find to worry about? MIL opened her presents!?

Get.a.grip.

I’d be disappointed
It’s a bit of a rule in our house that the person who bought the presents should see you open them.

Yabu and weirdly controlling

Agree with @Yabbers

I'm a bit confused as to what is wrong here. You have Christmas presents, the recipient waited and opened them on Christmas Day?

Totally normal behaviour

This all sounds a bit controlling. ‘This is how I want Christmas and no one else can make a decision!!!!’

This is a communication issue, I think.

It's perfectly normal to open gifts dropped off in advance on Christmas Day itself.

But it's also nice to watch people open things.

What you should have done was said something to PIL when you dropped presents off like: "we'd love to watch you open them and for you to see the kids open theirs, so would you mind hanging on till Boxing Day",

But since you didn't say anything I think YABU to be upset now. At least you know for next year though.

Honestly, no it wouldn't bother me. If anything I would be more confused if the presents hadn't been opened. They were Christmas presents after all.

Did she like them?

It'd be more disappointing/odd/confusing if she didn't open them. You could think that she didn't want them, couldn't be bothered to open them, didn't like you, etc, etc.