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to want family staying "to help" to actually help?

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lookingouttosea · 26/12/2018 18:22

I have my mother and younger sister to stay with me for 3 weeks until after my baby is born. This is because I have pregnancy hypertension/being monitored for preeclampsia and I'm in-and-out of hospital and my husband works long hours. So they're here to help look after my toddler.

Problem is, they'll entertain her, sort of...if she's in a good mood but won't do any of the hard things like dress her, bath her, put her to bed, make sure she eats something. Then they'll half-cook and half-clean up but bare minimum stuff...like washing dishes but leaving saucepans, putting away food,wiping surfaces, cleaning floors and so on to me.

I'm finding I have more housework now than if they weren't here, along with extra clothes in the laundry. I have asked that they do a bit more than the bare minimum but they don't, saying they don't know where things are kept or that they don't know how x, y, z works.

They mostly sit and take over the TV meaning I can't watch whatever I might have watched anyway.

On the plus side, if they weren't here I would get no break from my toddler at all. I'm exhausted so at least I can sometimes sneak up to bed or for a bath. If they weren't here I'm not sure I could cope, plus my husband would have to take time off work to look after her when I'm in the hospital.

AIBU??? Thanks.

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GoatFinger · 26/12/2018 23:08

Yeah my in-laws came after the birth of my first as DH was on hospital and I could barely walk. Like yours they did very little except argue, report back to my husband that I was lazy and generally made me feel terrible in my own home.
Can they take your toddler to stay at their house instead?

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