How to tell SIL about all DD gifts.

[namechangeroo1]

3 GC in family my DD and SIL DD & new baby

'Uncle' bought my DD 5 gifts and SIL DD only 2....£70 difference 🤔 we are very close and she will ask what her brother got for our DD... should i text her and tell her not to upset her older DD, or wait till she asks on the phone? SIL wont be bothered she will be happy that DD got nice things but I don't want to upset anyone.

I also don't want to see this popping up on daily mail either by some shitty journalist... mumsnet Use only please

Did he buy some stuff for the new baby too so he’s spent the same per family?

I don’t think it’s interesting enough to be picked up as an article...

I dunno, wait till asked? Are they different ages? Is it compulsory to spend the exact same on both?

Do you acrually think this requires a forewarning text? Will she really give it a second thought?

Just mention one of the gifts...not difficult

How do you know there's a £70 difference? Having spent yesterday watching the DC open gifts from various friends and family I genuinely don't know how much anyone spent on them because a) I don't care and b) who sits there and calculates that?

Also, perhaps SIL asked her brother to only buy one gift to minimise the amount of tat received

I also don't want to see this popping up on daily mail either by some shitty journalist... mumsnet Use only please

You are posting on an open public forum. Posting this makes no difference whatsoever.

HTH

@MyPoodleisWorthTenofYou just incase i guess, no SIL DD a lot older than mine.

Wait until/if asked. He did it, not you. Nothing to do with you unless you are trying to stir the pot.

@PigletWasPoohsFriend oh god if it makes me feel better why do you care enough to comment?

I also don't want to see this popping up on daily mail either by some shitty journalist... mumsnet Use only please

why do people bother putting crap like this? you might as well post this on the DM website, ffs - this is the internet, this is a public forum, and MN love it because more people come here from the DM and therefore more advertising revenue

dont want it on the DM? dont post!

@Idontbelieveinthemoon i know how much they were because he asked for suggestions, i sent them and said she would like one of any above please and he got them all!!

@WhatsUpHun oh goodness I best get packing then and book a flight to australia..

oh god if it makes me feel better why do you care enough to comment?

I can post what I like thank you.

haha i'm sure its not too identifying, although, if you really want it in the DM make sure you add some other details, like... it wasnt actually £70, but £7,000 but you didnt want to distract, and that he's a b-list celeb and i cant think of anything else, but above all - remember, get in to an argument with some other posters...

@WhatsUpHun wish it was £7000 id share it between the GC!

🙄

Well don't tell her all the presents. If she asks what he got mention her favourite present. "Oh yes, she got a box of slime, she loves it."

If she asks your dd, if she's much younger then chances are your dd won't say it all anyway. I have enough difficulty remembering who bought what without my list

Texting your sil "btw dbro got my dd more presents than you" looks more like you're trying to make sure she's jealous not that you're trying to smooth it out.

How do you know what he bought SILs DD? How do you know he didn't tell SIL if he told you?

One year my brother bought for one of my children and not the other. Tbf the other was a baby and didn’t care but as the children won’t know does it really matter? I don’t believe in spending equal amounts on children just so they’ve got the same but I know I’ll probably get flamed. Did they both get something they’d like? Maybe he couldn’t think of anything else for your SIL’s dd. Or maybe he got something in a sale so you’ve actually added it up wrong. Or maybe he just saw these gifts for your dd and they jumped out at him. As you’ve said that your SIL won’t mind I wouldn’t overthink it too much. As it doesn’t sound like they opened them at the same time it doesn’t really matter as long as the dc aren’t upset.

I also don't want to see this popping up on daily mail

Don't flatter yourself... It's boring af.

Blimey! Youse are all full of the Christmas spirit tonight! I’m sure your sister won’t even think about the price difference OP, unless you make a point of raising it. He may have bought things on sale so may have spent the same amount on all the children.