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Been at job since last January. Its a small company and the boss is the owner. He’s married with three kids and I myself am married with one child. We are both in the similar age category as the rest colleagues are considerably younger.

We had our Christmas night out recently and owner was extremely over friendly with me in front of staff, think grinding against me on the dance floor which I walked away, touching my knee under the table and basically pawing all over me even though he is aware I’m married. We are currently on break from work for Christmas but not sure what to do when I return to work? I told him I was happily married and that I wouldn’t dream of betraying my dh.

Start looking for another job now.

I'm sure I'll get flamed by the MN jury for not confronting him but I wouldn't. I would carry on as if it never happened at work and start looking for other jobs ASAP in the New Year.

How was he with you previously?

If this was the only time ever, I wouldn't say anything (leave him to stew in his own juice) and carry on as normal (professionally speaking). Hopefully he's embarrassed... If he mentions it, I'd expect and accept an apology but would be making it known he must behave himself in future.

And I'd be keeping an eye out in future.

If he's a twat about it, then give him a full dressing down.

I'd say to your colleagues "how drunk was boss, made a tit out of himself didn't he?"

Hopefully he'll either apologise or it will just never be mentioned again...

I will get flamed but I’d ignore it and avoid all potential social situations with this guy.

I’d also start looking for a new job.

I witnessed something like this recently. I felt sorry for the poor girl, she left angry saying about her boss coming on to her and that he was married. He over heard from the smoking area and followed her. The poor girl ended up in tears around the corner because he continued to paw at her so I interrupted and called her a taxi. Makes me absolutely boil that they think it's ok to do this.

Personally I would leave it and find a new job. Good luck OP

I’m going to go against the grain here and suggest that you do tackle this, why should you have to look for another job.

I’d seek advice from CA or ACAS or Union and tackle this

Was be drunk?

How horrible for you. Was he drunk? If he was, he might now be mortified! If not, look for another job because he does not know how to behave and will almost certainly do it again.

Who cares if he was drunk? Does it make a difference really?

I mean no disrespect by saying this, but 'leaving it' as many posters have suggested, is the exact reason many men think they can get away with this.

I would certainly start looking for a new job in the new year, but I absolutely wouldn't allow him to get away with this either. I'm not sure how you would actually go about tackling this if I'm honest, but I would strongly advise against leaving it.

My response is based on my own experience of something similar. I was constructively dismissed from my job after turning down my boss. It was a minimum wage job, no legal aid and I couldn't afford a solicitor, so no chance taking it to tribunal or anything like that. I was very lucky to get my next job, tbh, because the rejected boss lied and said he'd never heard of me when new boss called him for a reference. (I'd been there 2 years)
It's shit, it really is, but at this point the boss has more power to fuck up OP's life than she does to fuck up his.

Yes he was drunk. I had noticed him staring at work but brushed it off at the time, I don’t tend to work with often and have a good rappor with the rest of the team. I’m hoping that he is embrassed and see how things are once we are back to work.

Who cares if he was drunk? Does it make a difference really?

Yes it does, because in that case it's possible that once he's sober he'll be be very embarrassed and (if confronted) apologetic.

And people wonder why this behaviour continues