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AIBU?

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To not help to get the dc ready just today

23 replies

Hobbitbobbit · 26/12/2018 11:51

We are off to MIL’s and I’m in absolutely no rush to get there. I spend all year making sure the two dc get ready and get out of the house on time and have everything they need. OH usually needs quite a lot of reminding to get the fuck ready when we have set times to be anyqhere himself. Today I’ve done and said nothing about starting to get ready as I really am not looking forward to this visit so I think he can for once have the joy of getting them motivated packed up and ready. I might be a bit u and I don’t think I even care!

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arethereanyleftatall · 26/12/2018 12:02

Yanbu at all.

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Hobbitbobbit · 26/12/2018 12:09

Thank you Smile he’s just pointed out that he’s managed to get one child ready ha! I think he wants congratulating.

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SeaToSki · 26/12/2018 12:12

Not only dont help, but act like DH normally does, and need some reminding and helping yourself. 😬

Have you seen my shoes, Im sure I left them here?
I just need to do xyz before we go, umm.... now where do I start...ummm

ChristmasTwatteryDoesMyHeadIn · 26/12/2018 12:13

YANBU at all, I’d leave him to it Grin

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Hobbitbobbit · 26/12/2018 12:13

Exactly @seatoski! Hence currently having a little relax with my phone.

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mummmy2017 · 26/12/2018 12:15

Let him do it..
When he points out he did it jump in with...
Oh I have so underestimated how good you are at doing this, it can be your new job for us when we go out so we are not so rushed...

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 26/12/2018 12:16

YNBU unless dh is likely to tell mil that it was you that made you all late

My df used to do this quite often one of us dc or dm would be blamed for being late when it was him dawdling!

HannahnotAgnes · 26/12/2018 12:17

YANBU

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Hobbitbobbit · 26/12/2018 12:19

Brilliant idea @mummy2017 🤣 I’n still not sure that would work ordinarily as he only seems concerned about being on time when it’s to his dm’s 🙄

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Floralhousecoat · 26/12/2018 12:24

Loving this thread op. Maybe you could mn live as dh proceeds to get dc and himself ready. Maybe you can find last minute jobs to do like hoovering. Or defrosting the freezer...

boilingstormyseas · 26/12/2018 12:24

I'm so with you. I find it exhausting trying to get everyone out of the house on time and my DH is the worst faffer ever. My DC are (young) adults. I've told them all what time we need to be off for lunch and I won't be repeating myself. Getting myself ready now and ignoring them all!

C0untDucku1a · 26/12/2018 12:30

WE are with you, OP!

Also, join the page Man who has it all on facebook. You will laugh and laugh and laugh.

LadyFlumpalot · 26/12/2018 12:30

Oh god no YANBU! My DH and his entire family seem to run on some kind of special time zone where they only need to start thinking about getting ready at the time they needed to be there.

PIL and family were supposed to be with us by 10am on the 23rd. They left there house, a 90 minute drive away at 8am. All well and good, only, they wanted to visit the supermarket and the local farm shop on the way to us and hadn't factored in the extra time needed. They got to us at gone midday.

DH will suddenly remember something that needs doing just as we are ready to leave. The best/worst was changing the spark plugs on the car... that resulted in a very delayed start to a holiday.

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Hobbitbobbit · 26/12/2018 12:34

Yes @floralhousecoat! Although I think I want to lay around eating chocolate instead.

@boilingstormyseas it is exhausting isn’t it! I find it tiresome constantly being responsible for all the details and then being seen as a nag when having to tell people obvious thing like brush your teeth out or put your shoes on.
I’m actually showered so I’m enjoying doing my hair and make up for once. This is quite nice actually.

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Chamomileteaplease · 26/12/2018 12:37

Sounds brilliant. Carry on as you are.

Tell us what he is doing.

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Hobbitbobbit · 26/12/2018 12:58

@countduckula I will take a look as that sounds right up my street.

@ladyflumpalot god that’s annoying!

He’s actually just remembered a relative that he hasn’t bought for that will be at his dm’s so he’s popped to the shops for something! He’s unbelievable he really is, he will no doubt expect me to have everything packed and ready to go when he gets back (we are staying at my relatives so need to pack all the Christmas presents etc that were opened yesterday and everything we brought with us)

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Hobbitbobbit · 26/12/2018 13:27

He was back annoyingly quickly, I’ve never known him to be capable of such speed.
He’s panicking and packing like an octopus it’s quite amusing.

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ChristmasTwatteryDoesMyHeadIn · 26/12/2018 13:49

Ooh so he CAN do it by himself? Result!

I’d make this more than a one off OP Grin

MissWimpyDimple · 26/12/2018 13:52

"Packing like an octopus" 🤣

GreenTulips · 26/12/2018 13:55

Time for another cuppa

ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 26/12/2018 16:53

I LOVE packing like an octopus!

SeaToSki · 26/12/2018 16:55

Do you think you might be coming down with something OP, you could try a bit of the poorly voice on DH and put your dressing gown on and clutch at a hot cup of tea

Floralhousecoat · 26/12/2018 18:01

Lol @packing like an octopus.

Tell him how sexy and manly you find him when he's being as efficient as a ninja at buying last minute gifts and getting you all packed and ready...
Sexy octopus could be his new pet name!!

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