I've NC for this as this maybe quite outing and I really don't want this linked with other posts.
A bit of background, my MIL is an overbearing difficult woman but I put up with her behaviour as she loves my kids and they love her, I facilitate at least once a week contact if not more to keep her happy. Last year she was ridiculous with presents for Christmas and we asked her not to go overboard this year as the kids get overwhelmed and we have no where to put everything. My kids have so many toys already.
Fast forward to this Christmas, we have a little bit more disposable income this year so we pushed the boat out a bit wanting to give the kids a great Christmas - it wasn't excessive but they both had a fair bit with everything they had said they wanted. We were giddy with excitement on Christmas morning.
My PIL came round at 7.30 in the morning with 5 big bag fulls of presents - my FIL apologised but MIL was over the moon with it all despite mine and my DPs face saying it all!! It was obscene the amount of gifts they had - not only did they outdo our presents but by at least four times. In the end my kids were so overwhelmed they weren't even looking at them just chucking them and opening another one, DS was so overwhelmed he just wanted to look at his toys but MIL kept shoving presents in his face.
We retreated to the kitchen as I was overwhelmed and trying to sort everything so the kids weren't so overwhelmed but getting snapped at by her. She then came into the kitchen and told us off asking if we didn't want to watch our kids open their presents. This was an hour and half after they arrived and they were still going 'NO MIL I don't want to watch and fawn over you for buying so much'.
I'm so livid and so is DP - he took half the things away as they are duplicates and some of the things they really wanted that we had bought them. I know we can give things away or send them to her house but it seemed like the MIL show rather than for the kids.
We specifically said not to go overboard and she did it anyway but even more so. I'm not sure what I really wanted from this AIBU, my DP is going to speak to her after Christmas about it and try and avoid it for next year but I know her and she'll do it anyway. So, AIBU or has she massively overstepped the boundaries?