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To dread New Years Eve

83 replies

Loveweekends10 · 26/12/2018 03:50

I always look forward to Xmas but dread New Years eve months ahead. I think I have almost developed a kind of phobia to it! We did celebrate it with friends last year but that’s a one off as they go away most years. We tend not to get party invites and I feel like we are the odd ones out most years. I wish I could shake this feeling.

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Fairtatas · 26/12/2018 08:52

We always feel a bit billy-no-mates on NYE. We have a few friends but they all seem to socialise in separate circles on NYE. We have embraced the picnic tea and crap tv!

dulcefarniente · 26/12/2018 08:55

I get an early night. It's alright when you're in your 20s and it's a big night out with your mates. After that it revolves around couples and lots of pressure if you're not yet engaged/married to get engaged on the night. If you're older and single you are either prey to being pounced on at midnight or an island in the midst of kissing couples.

Godotsarrived · 26/12/2018 08:58

I am not a fan of NYE, I never have been. I stay in, take down all the Christmas stuff, pack it all away and clean the house. Wake up on Jan 1 with a ‘clean slate’. Ready to get back to work and normal.
It’s great 👍

Wilkiemini · 26/12/2018 09:03

I hate New Year’s Eve,even as a child it filled me with dread all that reminiscing over the year that passed when it had usually been an awful one only made it more traumatic!

This year will be especially hard as the kids are with ex for the first time for half the day and they return at bedtime, we had no party invites because we have been dumped by all our so called friends! So the kids will go to bed and I will be alone so I will probably go to bed and think about trying to start afresh in 2019

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Loveweekends10 · 26/12/2018 09:03

Yes fairtatas that’s us. We go out with friends lots of other times but come New Years eve they are all doing other things and quite often in other countries. I think everyone assumes because we do have friends that we are busy but quite often we are not.

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Knittink · 26/12/2018 09:07

I love New Year, but that's because we spend it with my dsis and her family at theirs or ours. Games, walks, nice food etc, posh dinner just for the adults on NYE itself and cocktails. Don't fall for the pressure, OP. Go out for a nice meal with yoour OH or make one at home, or have a takeaway. Make your own NY traditions.

dementedma · 26/12/2018 09:08

hate it and dread it here too. Living in Scotland it is a total Pita if you're not into it. So I just ignore it and go to bed. it's just another day and the first day of the new year will be exactly the same as the last day of the old one so just treat it as a normal day.

Accountant222 · 26/12/2018 09:15

I always loved NYE, it was my night to have too much to drink, after I'd restrained myself because of the other entertaining. Now I'm past it, I go to bed it's just like any other night tbh

Bluesheep8 · 26/12/2018 10:09

I can't see what all the fuss over NYE is all about. We always stay in, have a buffet of snack type food and go to bed at the normal time. Used to go out when younger though.

Lucisky · 26/12/2018 10:42

We celebrate new years day rather than the night before. We go for a walk and then to our local pub for lunch.
I am old enough to remember when new years day wasn't a bank holiday in England. That was hell, dragging yourself into work with a raging hangover (I was of an age when nye meant party hard!). These days we have a pleasant supper and I am always in bed before midnight.

OliviaStabler · 26/12/2018 11:40

I'm usually in bed by midnight but get woken up by all the fireworks the neighbours let off. I tend to say Happy New Year to the cat and then roll over and go back to sleep Xmas Grin

Ofchris · 26/12/2018 11:49

I struggle with NYE too. My GM was Scottish so it used to be s big thing in our family. We’d go round and GM and her sister would be drunk and giggly in the kitchen and I’d play with my cousins. In my 20s I’d go out with friends. Now we are generally on our own so it feels like a non event. None of our friends live close enough to come round without having to drive home and there’s not really room here to put up a whole family.

gunnergirl · 26/12/2018 12:11

I used to party hard when I was young but last 10 years I'd rather chill get a takeaway and watch the fireworks from front window were in north London and loads of fireworks go off too much money needed now to go out in london

FortunesFave · 26/12/2018 12:17

I hate it too. We've had invitations but we don't drink and invariably find ourselves sitting among pissed up friends who aren't any fun to be around when we're sober.

We stay in. But DD2 is ten and loves the whole shite thing so I may have to do some fake family party just for her. I'll try to get into it.

Jozen · 26/12/2018 23:23

What pressure? You really are paranoid. There is no pressure from anyone

Say what? Why am I paranoid? Grin
Unless you live in a hole in the ground you can't escape the influx of information on mainstream media. It's not just NYE, it's the same with Christmas- the tv ads, posts on FB and threads here on MN.
We are now more exposed to what others do than we were years ago whether we like it or not. That's common knowledge not paranoia.
However you can choose to ignore it all and be perfectly content doing your own thing whether it be sitting in with a book or having a wild time at the coolest bar in town. If that makes you happy, go for it.

Picknickers · 26/12/2018 23:42

We cook a special meal and watch Jools Holland. We tell everyone it's our tradition and they leave us alone. Bliss.

roastpotatoesrule · 26/12/2018 23:50

Get an early night and forget about it. This is my favourite way to spend NYE. Then do something nice the next day while feeling smug about no hangover.

Lavenderdays · 27/12/2018 18:36

Over recent years I have not liked NYE. It always makes me feel reflective and although I have a lovely immediate family, I have a very dysfunctional extended one and can only reminisce about the lovely get togethers that sometimes happened when I was a child. Going out is expensive plus we have a youngish family so not really an option; it would be lovely to have a small party at home one year (I've got to make more friends for this to happen, due to lack of family).

Fundays12 · 27/12/2018 20:31

I don’t like NYE tend to go to bed before the bells and haven’t gone out in 10 years which suits me fine. It’s the most overrated and over priced night of the year. We often get nice food in, put duvets down and let the kids stay up late to watch a film. Have also done the cinema and bowling.

Fundays12 · 27/12/2018 20:33

Ohh and I always take my Christmas decorations down by New year days as I hate them up on the 1sr Jan. I like my house clean and back to normal by then.

AllTakenSoRubbishUsername · 27/12/2018 21:46

I don't really like being out on NYE. It's so noisy and crowded. I much prefer to stay home, have friends over and last year my husband and I just watched Jools Holland and drank champagne. Perfect!

GobblersKnob · 27/12/2018 21:53

I don't like it, never have. Prefer it if we can be at home but most years including this we spends it with the out laws and extended family now. I tend to go to bed and curl up with a book long before midnight, so I don't have to kiss everyone Grin

em222 · 27/12/2018 21:55

Feel the same, my partner is especially annoying. “Only 3 hours to go, 2 hours, 1 hour, 15 seconds” goes on and on and on about the year ahead?! Let’s wake the kids up.... fuck offffff would you please. I opted to work a night shift this year. He can watch the damn clock all night long alone. And yes I know I’m miserable but I really would rather go to bed at 10pm and sleep through.

Purpleartichoke · 27/12/2018 21:58

My one New Years concession is a bottle of champagne. That is only because it’s my favorite drink and I use any excuse to buy a bottle. It gets opened around 5 and sipped until we go to bed around 10. The leftovers go into a mimosa the next morning.

I tried to celebrate New Years when I was younger, but it’s such a non-holiday, I can’t be bothered anymore.

MissClareRemembers · 27/12/2018 22:02

I hate it. Even in my late teens/20s it was an ordeal! We didn’t even do anything for the Millennium (although I think that was because we both had flu...)

These days we simply don’t have a social circle so we have no invites and we could never be arsed inviting anyone to us. We’re our own worst enemies really!