First we're overseas, so heading for afternoon here.
My perspective:
SILs have made life very tough here, and yesterday was no exception, for dozens of reasons. DH pissed me off by telling (As opposed to opening up a chat with) me this morning that he was inviting everyone back to ours for afternoon/evening, despite the fact that he knew yesterday was tough and I'd made lose plans with friends/ neighbours today for various times, including this afternoon. for info, we did not know they were still going to be in town for a couple of days after Christmas, they made no effort to include us in any plans, and organised a" family" morning tea this morning without inviting us.
His view: yes they exclude us, and have done mad stately home type things over and over again, but we only see them once a quarter and we should make every effort.
He's gone to see them with our kids, and as an olive branch, I suggested he pin down a time for them coming over, but let me know soon, so I can rain-check neighbours. This was 5 hours ago. Have spoken to neighbours meanwhile to rearrange for another day because they have elderly parent issues.
When I got back this morning from groceries, dh had already left, leaving hideous mess everywhere, and food out in 85 degree heat, including turkey, ham etc.
well done if you got that far...
AIBU to not chase, not say they can all come over this afternoon, now I have tidied and have a beautifully clean, cooled house, in which I'm completely alone for the first time in almost 4 months, but certainly would be visitor- ready.
I am, because it's anti-social and I should turn the other cheek, but I could cry it's so peaceful, and clean. 