to feel fed up of breastfeeding?

[Wildene]

I refuse to stop and I refuse to bottle feed as I believe that what I am doing is best for me and my DS of 9 weeks. But AIBU to have a moan about how hard it is?

My DS is fussing at my boob, i think my let down is too fast as it sprays all over him, my other boob it's too slow. He pulls off and screams and chokes on milk. Also has a load of trapped air.

I'm so exhausted. Can Anyone advise? I'm so tired....

Express a little bit off before each feed to take edge off the flow. Literally lean over the sink and squirt a few sprays out- it might help. Well done for persevering, you're doing a great job and it's a fucking slog in the early days.

Express a bit before feeding then let down won't be so quick. Also try different positions. I also burped my bf babies as they were windy

That sounds really tough. Well done for persevering
I bf my baby, he's 14months now and it will get easier. They say never give up on a bad day and also to take it one feed at a time.
Contact a la leche league leader /member for help specific to your situation. Or a lactation consultant if you can afford it.
I have /had an under supply rather than an over supply so I have no concrete advice but you are doing the best for your baby even when you're tired so be proud of yourself. And have some

I found the first twelve weeks were awful, then we magically got the hang - my milk supply related, my baby became more efficient, I knew what I was doing - and it became great. Keep going, you're almost at the point it gets easy!

It's really hard some days, here for a handhold. You're doing brilliantly. A good friend told me don't quit on a bad day and that kept me going through until the day when DS just kinda decided he didn't want it anymore at about 10 months. I was pretty done by then too. But I look back on it all and some days were very tough but I'm pleased at what I achieved with it. It's a very personal thing. You'll look back and feel the same.

DS was 8 weeks old this time last year.
Hugs

I had to wind DS a lot at this age. They do get used to the fast let down as they get older. It’s definitely worth persevering because it’s much easier in the longterm, no bottles to wash or to remember if you’re going out ( introducing solids was a shock I kept forgetting to take baby food with me!).
My DS had a dummy from quite an early age and it made it a lot easier.

It should get easier, breast feed my first for a year and my second til 2+ yrs. It feels like they're fussy but it is normal. Enjoy the extra cuddles and time on the sofa (if its your first)

It is relentless. I've been breastfeeding for nearly 9 months now and as much as I love doing it, I'm secretly looking forward to when I don't have to do it. My son feeds to sleep most of the time so not only do I do all the feeding but I do all the naps and bedtime. I don't feel I can have a moan about it to anyone though because their reply would be to put him on formula and bottles. I've not had the greatest support from some of my family because I'm the first one to breastfeed and they don't really understand the cluster feeding, frequent wakings, frequent feeding etc.

My son messes about sometimes, gets distracted easily (making feeding in public difficult) and bites me when he's teething but at least I know I've given him the best possible start in life.

I'm going to try and exclusively breastfeed until the age of one, then do what I can around work and life in general then.

Hang on in there, it's tough at the start but it does get easier.

It's absolutely ok to feel fed up with it, to hate it, to feel overwhelmed and touched out. And it's ok to feel all of that and still want to carry on. I fed my son for 2 years in the end, it got so much easier in the end and it became easier to carry on than to stop. But some days (and nights) I absolutely loathed it - I found it difficult expressing (not much came out) and it was often only me that could settle him. The early days were HARD - ds was very sicky and we were trying to juggle gaviscon with breastfeeding and just trying to survive on very little sleep.

It's an intense relationship and can be all-consuming. But I am so proud that I stuck at it. I think I was so terrified of making up bottles correctly at 4am that I kept on!

Give it a few more weeks & one day you'll realise it's not so hard anymore. Then, before you know it, your baby will be 13m & teething & you'll be in agony again...

I find the quote "nevertheless, she persisted" can fit many situations. I like to imagine someone from the future telling the story of my life & them being able to say "and even though her nipples were cracked & she felt like shouting at the baby with every feed, nevertheless she persisted." Always in the style of a cheesy American voiceover... Makes me smile anyway!

Yes, you can have a moan! It’s important to be able to say it’s hard sometimes without someone say well why not just give a bottle. Have you been along to any breastfeeding groups? It can be so nice to hear other people having the same issues and feelings as you! Or join a facebook group.
For a fast let down try feeding in a laid back position. Vitamin B12 1000mcg (for you) can help with wind in the baby.

It's hard and the challenges change as they get older but I can honestly say it's the most rewarding thing I have ever done.

It gets easier and easier as they get older. Try different positions and definitely wind after a feed. Bf babies can still need it.

On the hard days just decide to continue until tomorrow. Read kelly mom and join some Facebook groups. See if there is a local bf group.

Congratulations on doing so well x

Like a pp said, you’re just at the point where things are probably about to click and get easier!

Ds3 is 19 months and still breastfeeding now but I can remember how hard it was for the first 3 months.