To think grandparents should give the same amount

[Rosepetalgeranium]

They give £20 and £10 to my children (not on my side..) it's nothing to do with the actual age as they have been giving the same amount for the last couple of years and there's only a few years age gap.

Children pick up so early that they are being treated differently & it’s such a shame. Can you intervene? Give them the same and give £10 to charity? I am assuming you’ve broached it with the grandparents? S x

Small children don’t see monetary value in things so if your dcs are younger than 12, yabu. They’ll not notice.
And to be honest, gps can spend what they like, it’s their money. Even if things are a bit uneven from year to year.

Do you have any idea why? That's really bizarre and unfair. If you dont know why I would probably ask if there is some reason.

Do they give you the cards and money in advance or visit on the day and see you open? If they give in advance I would open them an replace with £15 each.

There's one thing not spending the exact same amount but if the children are old enough to be getting a cash present it should be equal (£10 each is fine).

Give them £15 each

Small children don’t see monetary value in things so if your dcs are younger than 12, yabu. They’ll not notice Not true of all under 12's, some would definitely notice and be upset by it.

OP do you have any idea why they give different amounts? That just seems weird to me

Small children don’t see monetary value in things so if your dcs are younger than 12, yabu. They’ll not notice

Have you had children?!

Erm no offence but I'd worry if children under 12 didn't comprehend the difference.

Not sure why they do it, other than the oldest they think should get mor

@Seniorschoolmum

Small children don’t see monetary value in things so if your dcs are younger than 12, yabu. They’ll not notice.

Errr yes they will. Pretty sure that if my 5yr old had a fiver and he saw his 7yr old brother had been given a tenner, he’d want to know why and also, vice versa, itd be a great opportunity for the eldest to rub it in with his younger bro!

It should be fair, as in the same amount for each child.

THAT is why gifts should be things, not money.

You take the money and then split it 50/50

My six and four year old can spot a mile off if one has more chips on their plate at tea time. They would notice immediately if they were given different amounts of money. The concept of 'fair' a big deal at that age.

OP I would nip this in the bud with them immediately. It's blatant favouritism.

What ages are your children?

VickyEadie but the same could occur - £10 spent on one and £20 on the other. It might still be noticeable.

So if they have only been doing it a couple of years, maybe when the younger child reaches a certain age they will increase the amount given to him/her. They may have worked it out so that both children will have been given exactly the same amount by the time they reach 18.

This is similar to my grandparents but they don't give cash, I have 4 children and one will get say a colouring a book, one a jar of homemade biscuits, one a designer pair of trainers and the other a top toy from the Christmas list. I always ask them to be more fair and concise all of them would be perfectly happy with the biscuits or colouring book, my children range from 12 to 3 so some of them can tell how much different they range In price and quality

Is the older DC a boy ? Asking as I had an aunt who always gave a much higher value gift to DB simply because he was a boy!

It's cash- of course an under 12 knows that £20 is more than £10!! I'd worry if a 6yo didn't know.
If I was the parent I'd have to ask that they both got £10 because it's very unfair