The plan was to stay at home, me cook christmas then dp (who i dont live with) to come over spend the day here, then us 2 to go to his for the evening with the animals. Neither of us have family so it would be me, dm and dp eating, then us cleaning up and going back to his at around 7pm. I obviously wouldnt be drinking although I would love to have a few for christmas day, its not a necessity and I would go without to spend the day with them both.
Dm has a backache and said she doesnt want to cook so I said its ok i'll do it. I bought all the food and nibbles and drinks last week and was excited. This morning dm said that she doesnt want dp to come over as she wants to stay in her pyjamas. Me and dp had no intentions of getting out of our comfees anyway, so again, problem solved! The house will be a mess so she doesnt want him round, I woke up early to clean and tidy and now its immaculate. Now she wants me to stay tonight as she'll be upset by me leaving her alone in the evening.
After an argument with her finding a problem for every solution I now just want to go to dp's house and have a relaxing day with christmas dinner and drinks. Hes happy either way and just wants to see me.
So aibu to leave dm home alone as no solution I come up with has made her happy and the only way she will be happy is if I stay home tonight or dp doesnt come round?
I feel awful for leaving her but am exhausted from trying and only have today and boxing day off a very stressful job so I just want to relax with no arguments.
*just so theres no drip feed, dm has an issue with dp as he doesnt have any family and I therefore am not involved in "family things" and she "wants better for me" even though he's the most respectful and lovely man and we adore each other, but shes taken massive issue with this. They otherwise get on really well but this is starting to be bothering her more the more serious we get and are planning on living together