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AIBU?

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Are we being targeted?

18 replies

123qw · 25/12/2018 00:50

Aibu to want to move houses, been about a year since weve moved in, and in the last month ive had my car stolen, brought new one after a week then had tyres damaged and now ive seen large deep scratches all the way across the car from front light to back. This has all happened in the space of a few weeks. I'm just so angry and upset that i cant even cry to let the emotions out. I told OH after 2nd incident i wanted to move, he just listened and didnt say much as he thought i was just overly emotional. However now that its happened again i keep thinking about the safety of LO and whether we can continue living here as i genuinly feel like im being targeted. I hate feeling like this, its making me feel sick knowing im going to have to see my new car in that state tmrw and i cant actually do anything about It .

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TabbooYou · 25/12/2018 00:52

can you get a security camera fitted?

Normalnorman · 25/12/2018 00:59

It's awful when you don't feel safe and comfortable in your own home I sympathise entirely.

Assuming you haven't already I'd take a trip to B&Q / Homebase or similar and buy some motion sensor security lighting to deter anyone and if you're really worried you could by a simple CCTV as well so if someone is targeting you at least you'll have evidence for the police.

Moving house is itself stressful so when one or maybe a couple of things go wrong quickly after the move it's easy to feel overwhelmed and worried.

Right now I'm tempted to think another move is the worst thing you could do so just get some cameras and lighting, see if anything else happens and record / report anything that does to the police.

Link to solar security lights we have them at home and up at the stables.

www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07GVFHKKF/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_NcyiCbGP3DJ4N?tag=mumsnetforum-21

ImNotKitten · 25/12/2018 01:01

Definitely worth getting a camera. It could be someone you know in which case you could go through all the expense and hassle of moving house only for it to happen again.

Augusta2012 · 25/12/2018 01:03

Is there any reason you would be specifically targeted? I would be more inclined to think it was local kids doing a bit of vandalism than a targeted attack.

I agree security camera is a good idea. Assuming you’re being targeted and there is a danger to DD is a bit of an overreaction.

EmeraldShamrock · 25/12/2018 01:04

If you are renting and you can afford it, then I would move too. Little scumbags I would be worried. Do you know any of your neighbours well, maybe they could she'd some light on the situation? Could it be an issue with the old tenant? If it is just antisocial antics try to move.

Longdistance · 25/12/2018 01:09

We have cctv on our house, and it’s a godsend tbh. There was a spate of dhs car being broken into, we weren’t sure how they were getting in the car. We got the cctv installed, dhs car got broken into, I looked to see if he’d actually locked his car, no, he was forgetting to lock his car and brin careless 🙄
We also had it installed due to parcels going missing. Turns out they were delivering them to the wrong road. That and I bought a brand new car.

PolkaDoting · 25/12/2018 01:18

What is the area like in general?

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123qw · 25/12/2018 07:12

The area is kind of quiet with mainly families and old people living here. Had no issues with anyone so to my knowledge ive not upset anyone. The car is parked on a side road as which is visable from my house, its not obstructing anyones drive or parked illegally, neither am i taking someone elses parking spot. Its near lots of houses and off a main road. We dont have a drive and live on a main road so cant park outside our own house.We brought the house, so moving is going to cost more hassle, we went through so much to buy this house. Im overly cautious when locking the car, lock, double check, pull handles and check too, tuck mirror also put steering lock on now too. I know its just a car, but i put a lot of money in to buying it and that kind of gets to me, ive worked so hard to get myself something nice and now its ruined. I cant even go through insurance, when the last car was stolen i was told by insurers that i can only claim 2 times. OH keeps saying just stop thing about it and try to move on, i just cant i just feel so shitty about it all.

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HoneysuckIejasmine · 25/12/2018 07:26

Sounds like someone doesn't like you parking there.

RebootYourEngine · 25/12/2018 07:40

Sounds like it could be a disgruntled neighbour who doesn't like you parking outside their house. Is it always parked in the same spot? Have tried parking it somewhere else?

EffOrf · 25/12/2018 07:49

I wouldn't have thought the 2 car incidents were linked, the vandalism could be a disgruntled person about the parking, but I often get disgruntled about people parking in front of my house but the most I do if they are there for a while is check if they are taxed and MOT'd, people are more likely to leave a nasty note on it than vandalise as that would be a criminal offence if they were found out.

I would park somewhere else and see what happens.

user789653241 · 25/12/2018 07:52

We had our car keyed soon after we moved here. And we were very distraught.
Now we have lived here for years, the neighbours are very friendly and helpful. They warn us, or keep an eye when we are away.

AdoreTheBeach · 25/12/2018 07:58

Do you know if it is only your car or also other cars parked on the road? I ask because our road is used for people walking to/from train station and there have been bouts of cars being scratched, back wipers bent etc. This was done by kids walking through our road. This would happen to a number of cars (but not all) parked on the road. Lately these kids have taken to tipping over the bins about every other house. So not directed by any one person or any one house.

One neighbours had their Xmas lights torn down that were on a tree near the sidewalk. No other houses, but no others had lights near the sidewalk do not specifically a target.

I do think there are dash cams that record if movement nearby. This may be something useful to look into. Maybe also try parking a few spots down the road if you’re currently parking close to the corner of the main road. If no more damage, may be kids doing this and targeting cars closest to main road on the side street.

abbsisspartacus · 25/12/2018 07:59

Why is he being so passive? I would lose my shit if someone was doing that to my car

TheHeathenOfSuburbia · 25/12/2018 08:03

Similar to adorethebeach, we used to live on a road that was a walking route back from the pub, every so often our car would get vandalised overnight.

Tis the season for people drinking till they're idiots....

steff13 · 25/12/2018 08:07

Why is he being so passive? I would lose my shit if someone was doing that to my car

You post made me think of Fatal Attraction.

EffOrf · 25/12/2018 08:16

Much more likely to be random people walking past or youths rather than people who live there, especially with the dark mornings and evenings. Is it a more flashy or unusual make of car or brand new which sometimes people target.

abbsisspartacus · 25/12/2018 14:56

Fatal attraction? Bunny boiler? Well tis the season to be suspicious

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