to be an emotional wreck this Christmas?

[Wildene]

I can't stop crying.

It's my 9 week old DSs first Christmas.

I just had a card on it from him (really from DH) that said 'mummy'

I've never been mummy before. I've had so many miscarriages and finally I'm a mum.

I feel weird. Not happy. Not sad. Just... emotional and trying to hide this from DSD and DH.

Christmas is a strange time...

Anyone else just feeling a bit weird? Kind of wishing Christmas just wasn't a thing... why do I feel so low?

Oh OP.
I'm afraid I have no advice but I just wanted to bump your thread up a bit.
I'm not surprised at all that you would be feeling completely overwhelmed.
All the best to you and your lovely wee family. I hope you have a very Merry Christmas xxx

Oh love

You’ve been through so much and it’s natural to feel overwhelmed. Always funny getting what you want eh

Congratulations on your beautiful squishy new born, give him loads of cuddles. You’ve got so many many wonderful christmasses together.

Don’t hide how you feel from your husband, he’s been with you on your difficult road to where you are today.

I’m pregnant after a lot of losses and had a complete bawl buying a car seat and a bear yesterday. Couldn’t tell you why, was just too much!

You feel how you feel, accept it. Happy Christmas to you all

Oh congratulations OP. How lovely having your baby with you for Christmas. Nothing else matters now.

You are right, Christmas can be a very emotional time for many. But you enjoy it and laugh and cry and do what you feel you need to.

Longed for baby's first Christmas.... I'd be in floods TBH in a nice way!

Just look after yourself, and if you still feel low after Christmas have a think about popping to GP re PND. Although I think it is just the time of the year, and wish you so well my love.

It's probably just the shock of having a baby there. Your hormones are bound to be all over the place plus the normal Christmas stress so it's understandable. I had a December 23rd baby (7 years ago) and Christmas was so strange that year but now it's ace. We just have birthmas 😂 x

I feel like my baby blues are back!

So sorry @shitwithsugaron - I'm heading to bed soon too and hoping I'm less weird feeling tomorrow....

Congratulations on your baby. I am a mess this Christmas. No particular reason why but a lack of sleep, horrible anxiety at the moment and the dark dark fingers of depression slipping in. Trying to keep busy and repeatedly telling myself life is good.
It is and it's just one day.

@Pebbles16 hugs to you. It's a strange time...

Congratulations on becoming a family of 3!!

Please don't hide it from your husband, our DS is 15 weeks old tomorrow, so we're in the same boat regarding getting used to our new titles, it's bloody strange eh?! Have a good day tomorrow!

Cry as much as you need to. Then go and cuddle your baby. Sit down with him, sniffle him, hold his hand, feast your eyes. I bet your DH is feeling emotional, too.

Have a happy Christmas

He is. I just saw him cry for the first time in 4 years. I think he thinks I didn't notice. I'm not going to say anything.

@wildene a good cry together might be what you both need instead of hiding it from each other.

@Eponymous I think it's because neither of us are criers. We are both annoyingly 'tough' and proud (pretend). Really we are actually both emotional and vulnerable, at the moment

I think you’ve probably still got a bit of the “baby blues”. Perfectly normal but overwhelming. Your hormones are still all over the place and Christmas is a very emotional time anyway. Just go with whatever your mood is at any given time, it will probably be up and down and sometimes in between. Merry Christmas to you and your little family ❤️🎄

I'm pregnant and woke last night at 2am and just laid and cried for an hour for absolutely no reason, after already crying over the slightest thing all day. You'll still have raging hormones. It'll pass
Try and enjoy Christmas and congratulations

I'm feeling emotional today, after tucking my almost 2 year old twins into bed. For many reasons for years I never actually believed I would get married and have children and it suddenly hit me that i have everything i always wanted and what an absolute privilege it is to be able to wrap my babies' Christmas presents and take them to see Christmas lights and things. They very nearly died at birth and were born just after christmas so this time of year will always be difficult for me I think.

OP I’m right there with you - I’m currently looking at 7 week old DD, born after 6 years ttc and multiple rounds of ivf.

I’m feeling all over the place at the moment. It’s such an overwhelming feeling when you finally get the thing you’ve always wanted. Be kind to yourself and make sure you keep talking to your lovely DH.

Congratulations and have a lovely day tomorrow x

Oh OP, don't worry. Your hormones are still all over the place, you've had a stressful few years no doubt with miscarriages and you're life has just changed more dramatically then ever before. Christmas is an emotional time and it's all come to a head and become overwhelming.

Congratulations on becoming a family of three. I can totally relate. We went through years of infertility and then ivf and had DS1. His first Christmas, I was a mess. I cried at everything. We now have two DS, they are 4 and 6 and although I'm not as emotional as I was, I still shed a tear whilst I was putting their presents under the tree, because I never in a million years thought I'd ever get to for one child, let alone two. I think it's just a mixture of relief that the infertility journey has come to an end and disbelief that we could be so lucky.