Threatening Messages

[HolyandWild]

My DH was walking our son home from school last week when a kid in front emptied the contents of his pockets onto the pavement. He dumped sweet wrappers deliberately and walked away. DH shouted at him to come back and asked him to pick it up which the kid did. He said sorry and everyone carried on their way. He's about 10 years old and in the year below my son. Though no more about it until DH saw a message from kids Dad who found him on social media telling him that he's the father of the kid he abused in the street and he's coming to look for him. DH replied to tell him exactly what happened and he's sent another message to tell him that he's still going to "catch up" with him. It's really rattled me and I don't want this stuck in my head over Christmas! Kids Dad is military and likely to see DH at some point. AIBU to be rattled by this? Was he right to challenge the kid? What would you do about it - ignore or something else?

If kids dad is military I doubt he would be risking his job/career to 'catch up' with your DH.

The other dad sounds like a twat. Screenshot the messages and try and put this out of your mind.

Make sure your husband blocks this guy as the bare minimum.

If he’s military there’s no way he would risk his job over something so minor. He’s a load of hot air - don’t give it a second thought.

And yes he was right to tell the child to pick the rubbish off the floor.

The guy sounds nov, his kid doesn't stand a chance. I'd pass onto the school

Thank you! Will screen shot and block.

I would message back and say I have reported to the police before I deleted and blocked.

I’d quietly tell the school too after taking screenshots. You never know what things they might have for this child.
People are full of proverbial but you never know.
Feel sorry for the kid. If he’s not bullied by a father like this, he’s learning fuckall social skills.
I remember, in a similar situation, I told a 11 yo boy to pickup his chocolate wrapper in a Slough area and he said “shut up you fucking bitch, my dad can finish you. You fucking Paki. My dad can finish you if you talk to me like that again” (I’m from the Mediterranean region).

twats having kids who in turn, grow up to become twats who then breed and so on.

Contact the police if you're worried about your family's safety.

Should send the screen shots to his work to be honest. The military takes a dim view on this kind of behaviour.

doubt very much his is military, how do you know this ? there used to be a kid at my dc's school who used to big up his dad as being in the military when he was actually a chef in military barracks.

Because we live in a Garrison town and he's in uniform.

Would agree with pp and report him to the military.

If you can, contact the local military police and they can deal with it

Like PP I would screenshot, reply to say threats will be reported, then block the guy.

Agree - ring the reception ( or "the gate") at the Garrison and ask the RMP to get in contact and report him. Or civilian police - it is a threat.

Yes to going to the garrison.

"Should send the screen shots to his work to be honest. The military takes a dim view on this kind of behaviour."

This!

Army brat here. There can be some right arses in the army but such behaviour (even just the messages) can seriously fuck up someone's promotion track (it's not supposed to officially but there's always ways and means 😉, I'm also an army ex and my ex had a right rant at me blaming me for setting his promotion back 7 years apparently 😬 by refusing to confirm lie to his boss that we'd been separated but continuing to live together from before he started shagging his colleague! I was more than happy to tell his boss it was bloody well news to me! As was her pregnancy - that they'd not yet told boss about - oops 😂 properly landed them both in it he said, shame)

Pretty easy to track down their boss if needed.

Yes MP's will soon mark their cards if you contact them.

Op take screenshots and give them to the police, he has threatened your husband and their screenshots are proof of it...I'd also send screenshots to his workplace as I'm sure the military would want to know ..(I thought military weren't meant to even have social media and certainly not public social media?)

I agree with what others have said i.e. just take screenshots and don't respond to any more messages or give it too much time and worry.

If he contacts again be polite and say you already explained what happened and didn't shout at the son you saw him littering and saved his Dad the expense of a fine he could have ended up having to pay.

If he's still at it contact the local police. Sounds a right dickhead it's no wonder his son is a little shit

Screenshots to the RMP - I think they'll have a word.
If he's got a track record of idiocy I reckon it will be a meeting without coffee

I would contact who ever is in charge of his barracks and say that you have been threatened. Also contact the police