To avoid sex in December for the rest of my life - unless I want to get pregnant.

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Daughter was conceived December 2016 while I was on the pill. Just found out today I am pregnant but I have the depo shot every 13 weeks and I'm breastfeeding!!

I have PND and I'm very isolated. DH works loads so I'll be looking after both children by my own mainly.

Sorry it's a pointless post, guess I just wanted someone to tell/talk to

Do you want to have another baby? There are options. Are you have any help with your PND?

If you don’t want to be pregnant, you don’t have to be.

Sending you an unmumsnetty hug. I understand, been there and done that. October seems to be my very fertile month. I've conceived 4 times in October, once while trying and 3 times while using contraception.

I'm not having an abortion or putting the baby up for adoption. I have nothing against people who do, I just can't see myself doing it.

I am getting help for my pnd.

I can afford another child, I have the room for one as well. It's just all very sudden and I'm trying to imagine how I can possibly cope.

Thank you @elliejjtiny

Hi hun. Firstly congratulations on the baby. I'm due in February next year myself.
I didn't want to read this and run.
I can understand how it must feel especially being alone so much with one child already... you lose your identity a bit. That's something I've always worried about when going on maternity leave
Its really good you are getting help for your PND. I think the good thing about MN is to feel like you have company. Especially when dp is always at work and everyone else you know is busy. I know how you feel.

Congratulations, if you'd like them.
It's great that you're getting help with your PND, and you are aware of it and what is going on.
Just because you can physically and financially cope, you don't have to have a baby if you don't want one.
Try and go for a long walk, as exercise is so good for you, and it'll clear your head. You will have mumsnet, and I am sure you will do wonderfully, no matter what you do.
Would you like to talk about your DD?

I know a bit of what you're feeling, dc2 conceived November 2016, just found out 10 days ago I'm pregnant again, yay, morning sickness over Christmas Been a bit hard to get our heads around as this one wasn't planned, so feeling a bit out of sorts at the monent.

On a VERY positive note my sister had horrific pnd after 2nd child tried lots of things medication and therapy .Had unplanned 3 child and she was fine said it was as though someone had switched pnd off midwife thought possibly hormonal but the difference in her was unbelivable coped fine good luck

I had my 2 DC close together and remember the fear of wondering how I would cope with another baby when I found out I was pregnant for the second time.It's scary, particularly when you don't have a lot of RL support. Good luck, take care of yourself and have some

Oh Op, it will work out fine. I had my second when my first DD was just 14 months old and while it was very hard having two in nappies it got the whole thing out of the way. They were very close growing up and I was so glad I got the entire messy stage over and done with and had them both in nursery/school within 4 years.

I had PND with both of mine and the first hit me like a ton of bricks. then I was pregnant with a crawling baby and was too tired so be depressed. Please make sure you look after yourself, self care was vital to me an made everything easier but it can be very difficult with two so close.

You must be gobsmacked! Luckily you have a few months to prepare. Have you told dh? One of you needs to think about sterilisation, unless you want more children after this?!
2 years is quite a nice gap for kids growing up, they can entertain each other though hard work. Can you think of getting any help for a little while, or working on the isolation, join a group or babysitting club? Take dd to activities to meet other mums. I'm sure it will become clearer over time. Good luck op.

Don't want to read and run. Congratulations on the baby. I'm sure it takes time to properly sink in. all the best and unmumsnetty hugs and

You’ll cope. It isn’t easy, at any of the stages, and each bit lasts 2 years non stop but you’ll cope.

Mine are 12 and 13 now and I’m actually sat relaxing on Xmas day.

Ps my eldest was IVF so to be pregnant 6 months later was beyond unbelievable. It had been a 5 yr journey to #1

If they are close in age, it will difficult at first, but they will grow fast and be playmates for life. Mine are just under two years apart and play so well together.

Btw I read once that some women for some reason the pill does not work...like the hormones does nothing to effect their fertility. This could be you? Perhaps try condoms instead? Also, avoid dtd during fertile period...or at least be extra careful at that time.

What made you test out of interest?

I’m on depo and just assume it works.

Thank you for everyone's kind comments 
I'm still really shocked but I'm getting used to the idea of being a mum of two!

@RiddleyW
Really bad morning sickness and the thought of meat is revolting. I'm usually quite the meat eater! It was exactly the same with my first. I wouldn't of tested if I didn't get these symptoms