to expect her to understand

[Stroo]

Hi,

There is a school play on in a few weeks and DS has a part in it. A friend's son also has a part in it and i've lent her some of my clothes to make up his costume as she didn't have anything. She's only just out of hospital with depression and hadn't done anything for his costume.

Anyway - it turns out he has another part and she asked me to borrow some clothes of my son's for this part. I said okay. Now it turns out he has also been given a second part - the same as the other boy's second part.

She's making me feel well guilty for umming and arring when she asked if her son could still have the clothes for the second part.

What shall i do?

Hope this makes sense. They are 6.

Say, sorry I need them for my own ds now. What is the costume that she wants?

Well personally if I've said someone can have something/I'll do something I usually follow through with it even if I find it's going to cause me inconvenience (within reason obviously).

What is it she's borrowing?

Yeah - i will probably end up giving her the second costume aswell knowing me.

But i worry my son might be thinking - that's my stuff he's wearing and i don't look as good as him.

She's got the stuff for the first costume that was mine.

You don't have to give her the stuff at all - she's already got some of your stuff. Can't the teachers help out?