Kids talking over everything

[worthygirl]

Does anyone else have this with their kids? DD 7 and DS 11 both talk over everything and everyone! They are lovely kids- normally really polite and I get really good reports from school etc.

But at home it is literally impossible to watch or listen to anything- they talk over every film we ever try to watch, interrupt when I am on the phone etc.

I was just trying to listen to the radio and said to my son ‘can I just listen to this bit and then we can chat’ but he just carried on. Aaarrgghh- its driving me mad! I just want to be able to watch an Xmas film and relax a bit!!

AIbu to be driven mad by it? I do ask them to wait etc and they get lots of my attention too.

They try, and get shut down pretty quickly.

Send them out of the room every single time. They are too old to be doing that. They are carrying on because you haven't put your foot down.

Honestly, I have really tried but maybe I am not being firm enough

Far too old to be doing that, they aren’t toddlers. Consequences every time they do it, it’s very rude.

Yeah, mine are like this too and like pp have said, you just need to be firmer. My eldest doesn't do it so much now. It's just another thing to learn.

At the moment you're asking them. You need to tell them in no uncertain terms that what they're doing is unacceptable.

Oh yes. Mine is like that. Watching a film with her is like watching a dvd with the directors commentry on.

You said in your OP that you ask them to stop, rather than telling. What would a firm “that’s enough, stop it” result in?

What consequences do you enforce?

They are too old to be doing that. They need clearer (reasonable) boundaries.

My 7 year old still does it, as does her friend. Friend's mum and I were hoping it peaked at 7 and they'd stop soon. I think Christmas is making them explode with excitement. Consistent responses seem to help, but because sometimes it is a minor issue, it isn't easy to be consistent.

Tell them to be quiet at the age they should be able to show a bit of respect for other members of the family. My nearly 2 year old understands to be quiet

I agree they are doing it because you haven't made them stop. Teach them that it is unacceptable in the same way you have taught them all the other social rules they know.

Think all kids do this until they're told otherwise.

Just needs constant reminding that it's not OK. Not heavy handed bollocking but a persistent reinforcement of good behaviour

It's Christmas Eve, they're probably very excited but there's nothing wrong with being firm and telling them to be quiet if they're talking over everything.

My 5yo still does this. We have been being firm (now escalated to a proper telling off every time) with her about it for 3 years and it’s not made a difference. Getting worse if anything.

Rude and won't help them make their way in the world. How about " please don't interrupt" , "it's my turn now" or " please wait"

Dh does this every time I want to watch something. Either talks or watches a loud video on his phone. I just turn tv up. Or off. I’ve also started to do the same thing to him. Apprently it’s very annoying. And inkind...

That is one thing I detest about certain children. Parents should teach them that it is rude and attention seeking to talk over other people or to interrupt adult conversation. They have to told that the world does NOT revolve around them.

I definitely blame poor parenting. Not everyone wants to be so tolerant.

to be told

My 7 and 4 year olds do it, if we are watching a film they'll be given warning that if they continue talking over the film it will get turned off or they will have to go to their rooms.

The phone thing drives me up the bloody wall though, they could be sat here perfectly happy and quiet for ages but the moment the phone rings the shouting/singing etc starts and if I try to get away from them they will follow me, making as much noise as is humanly possible.