Would you go to someones for Christmas dinner with the a cold virus?

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Dh, ds (18mo) and I have all taken ill with a cold virus. My wonderful bro is hosting Christmas dinner tomorrow and we are all meant to be taking food to contribute. It's the first family Christmas in a long time and our parents will be there too. Problem is we are all so choked up and miserable with it. Is it wrong to still go? I'm worried we will make them sick but at the same time ds will love being around his cousins.

"Is it a cold or flu?"

Nah not flu. Just a crappy COMMON cold.

"It's not Christmas is it unless at least one person in the house is snottering all over the pigs in blankets!"

Mmmm pigs in blankets 😂

It's just a cold, someone usually has one. Happy snottering

I'm hosting and told my bldb and sil incase they wanted to cancel, and she has it too, so it's gonna be a cough and bogey filled day . Luckily we're not really ill with it, just coughs and runny noses.

Look - nobody in the real world ever says "I've got the cold virus". People say "I've got a cold"

Exactly!

Not sure why I was targeted as the “keyboard warrior” .

TBH you would probably upset people more by cancelling at this short notice when they have already shopped and probably prepped and are expecting you all, than yo would by turning up full of cold.

I have a cold. If I sit around I am basically fine. The smallest exertion and I am running a temperature and dizzy and falling asleep. The cold triggers my asthma and there's a good chance I will get bronchitis. I will be ill and/or run down for the next 2-3 weeks or longer.

I wouldn't bore anyone I know with this information. Many people still think asthma is a bit of a joke. OP, I would appreciate any visitors warning me that they are ill. I think that's polite.

Newsername I apologize. Wasn't very festive. It was first negative comment I saw and now realise what a twit I am.

P.s you were all right. My bro is awesome and said not to worry. Merry Christmas to you all!

I think it's good manners to warn people. They are the ones being put at risk of a few days feeling miserable (or worse if underlying risk factors ), so it's polite to do so with their consent. However it is just a cold, and under normal circumstances no one will want you to stay away.

Erhmmm, its just a cold!

If you cancelled for Christmas for colds half the country would be home alone.

I have started with a cold but haven't thought to tell my in laws who are coming to ours - which I should really as mil can be weird about catching a bug.

A cold is a cold and we all get them.

If it was a "hot" virus though, I might reconsider!

this reminds me of one chrismtas.my gran had had cancer for years.and one year she was really bad and had relapsed.she was in the middle of or end of treatment.
my cousin had a cold and instead of making them not come she shut herself out in the furthes room of the house.and told everyone they WOULD STILL BE COMING to theirs.i never really appreciated it at the time.how much pain she must have been in and what a beautiful thing this was of her to do.
god what a woman.she had to do this so many time of those years.i miss her.
go be with your family if you can.unless you think ul be terribly ill.but then you can always hunker down on one of their beds?
merry chrismtas folks.

Be a shame to miss it, speak to your bro ,dose yourselves up go, often feel alittle better when you get out. Hope you have a nice day

I don’t think you were being dramatic or wrong to ask the question. I’d hate having people turn up with really bad colds. I wouldn’t refuse close family on Christmas (in fact, I’m quite polite so would find it hard to refuse anyone) but would be at least glad you asked.

Ffs.

It is a virus. And people do refer to it as such. No big deal.

And op, I totally understand. If I get a cold, due to my job I can't work. And as I'm self employed I get no sick pay. So I would really appreciate a heads up. You would still be invited, but at least I would know in advance. (and possibly engineer seating arrangements so I wasn't too close)

I’m amazed at all these PP whose colds only last a day or two - I suspect you aren’t properly infected. The NHS says it takes up to two weeks to recover from a cold and stop being infectious. I’m on day 8 of a dreadful head cold and still feeling pretty rotten. If my family didn’t Already have it i’d Have stayed at home this Xmas - it’s rubbish and I wouldn’t want to pass it on

We wouldn’t go the the in-laws with a cold as FIL has had cancer in his thyroid gland (in his throat if people don’t know) and if he catches a cold now he takes it very bad. He has trouble with talking now and can struggle with eating certain foods (basically needs to eat soft food and frequently gets coughing fits during eating). These issues escalate when he has a cold and has even landed himself in hospital for 4 days in the past after catching a cold (needed in fluids and antibiotics).

None of us risk passing a cold to him if we can help it. He obviously still gets the odd cold but I would never knowingly go over if I or DD had a cold because it’s not worth making him that ill.

Of course if everyone is fit and well and don’t mind you visiting with a cold then no issue in going to visit people. I wish some people on MN would realise not every family is the same as theirs and some of us have family members we would not risk exposing to a common cold.

If I'm not well and due to go to someone's house, I always call up ahead to inform them then I let them decide whether I can still come over.

I spend my entire winter with a cold