Was it a rediculose idea

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Having a chat with mum and her friend the other day both in their 50s both early retirees when my mus says to me she wished I'd ask for more help I'm too organised and indipendant all in jest you could at least let me vaccume and mop she said,
I have been very fortunate that I have an "easy" baby so I have been able to get stuff done I'm a very tidy organised person my dad would call me Monica

Anyway to the point my mum is bored her and her friend are looking for a hobby to take up some of their days and we're telling me they couldn't agree so I jokingly said mum if you want to help so much why not set up a small discounted cleaning company (dm is well off wouldn't really need the money) for new parents to which my mums friend loudly exclaimed I was being rediculois I could see the cogs going in my mums brain que 3hours of discution between mum and her friend at mine which is apparently still going on think I've let Pandora out of the box on this one

I suppose my aibu is is that a rediculose idea, I said it as a joke but I wonder would it be a useful service

I think it's a lovely idea OP. Your intentions are really thoughtful and kind OP.

However, for your mum to set up as a helper/cleaner she would have to set up as a small business and have insurance which makes it complicated.

As your Mum doesn't need the money, maybe volunteering doing something similar is a better idea?
Does anyone know if there are any organisations that help new parents in this way?

It's great that you have managed so well with your own DC, you are right, some people really struggle & need help when they have young children.

slow hand clap to the 2 posters who just had to comment on the spelling of ridiculous. Does it make you feel superior?

Your intentions are really thoughtful and kind OP.

But the OP was joking and expresses regret that she suggested it

My SiL was allocated a homestart volunteer when she had twins. The lady was just like your mum and lived round the corner. (sil has loving family but all are a distance away - volunteer also has her own happy family). 10 years later this lady is a very valued family friend and still pops over at least once a week. Sometimes for social visit, sometimes to pick up a child from school etc. Definitely get her to call the local SureStart centre.

Was your suggestion to offer a free service, as many parents have less disposable income while on maternity leave.

Rita
Some folk just can't help themselves can they?
adorethebeach That was very rude.

So enjoying the OP’s varied and interesting spelling and metaphors is very rude but you seem to think that wishing a disorder that will make childrens’ lives infinitely more difficult upon them is amusing. Odd moral compass

As for the spelling/grammar police...

Are you serious???
It's easy enough to understand what the OP has written. She is thinking of ways to help others who are having a hard time.

Too many people on here should keep their snidely comments to themselves.

I don’t think it’s ridiculous at all! It’s a great idea. If your mum is bored and wants to make a bit of extra cash, then why the hell not! She also sounds like a caring lady, which may be a bonus for frazzled new mums who could do with a bit of kind company.

@TooMuchChristmasFoodAlready

yup. If you could be bothered to read the thread, you'd understand that cracker has been well and truly pulled already

;-)

Spikey: But the OP was joking and expresses regret that she suggested it

The original suggestion made by the OP to her DM was said as a joke.

OP is now wondering if it is such a ridiculous idea after all.
(It isn't.)

Bottom line is if your mum wants to do it, then why not?

Show your Mum this OP

www.home-start.org.uk/why-volunteer

I think rediculose is a great work to describe the sugar, and the amount of it, that will be consumed over the next 72 hours or so

But I think OP's DMum is correct - going back to work or taking on a major new oluntary commitment when you are both newly retired is an utterly batshit idea. That is the time to try out a new phase in life, following the dreams and interests you have as a couple. Maybe at some stage, some sort of charitable vocation will emerge. But it sounds like she just isn't interested right now.

WhiteDust completely unnecessary post. Posts which break talk guidelines have been deleted, and there's no call for posters to tell each other off.

(pot, kettle ... I know. But I bet you don't like being picked up for poor netiquette either, and see it as just derailing. Now you know how you look)

I have seen charities request help for new parents -usually befriending rather than cleaning and charities for taking childen out for the day (just to the park or for a walk.

But it sounds like she just isn't interested right now.

The OP said earlier on
'It was an off the cuff comment from me but dm seems to like the idea of helping new parents.'

WhiteDust completely unnecessary post. Posts which break talk guidelines have been deleted, and there's no call for posters to tell each other off.

I consider myself well and truly told off.

I think volunteering is a great idea but I wouldn't want to do cleaning for random new mums who probably appreciate but don't really need the help.

Thank for your reply every one have spoken to dm this morning and mentioned the cleaning/sure start idea she is going to think about some sort if volenteering after Christmas but unlike me after the "debate" the other days she said she hadn't actually given it much thought

but unlike me after the "debate" the other days she said she hadn't actually given it much thought grin

lol

So yeah, she's probably just not that interested really. When you're retired, you have plenty of time for pointless debate about things you're going to forget all about the next day!

That it very true