To think DH has drunk too much this month?

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DH never usually a big drinker. Drank on the 2nd, 7th December heavily so that he was drunk drunk. Again at home a week later. Not as drunk but very OTT, then a few days later, again at home. Week later very pissed at mates Christmas party and I had to go collect. The drunk again 2 days ago with me. Then again this evening??? To the point he had to go to bed early. I feel he's acting like a teenager.

AIBU!?

YABU. It's Christmas and he drank what - 6 times? YA also BU for counting - I'd be furious if DH counted up every time I'd had a few drinks over Christmas and used it to lecture me.

YANBU, especially if you have kids. Yes it may be Christmas but he’s an adult not a uni student

Why are you keeping tabs on him like that?

Why did you get drunk with him if you already thought he had drunk too much?

Yabu not your child ffs

Yabu. It’s christmas. But you would not be unreasonable if it carries on into January.

well there is enjoying a few drinks and getting rat-arsed and needing to be looked after. 1 is ok 2 is ok if you are between the ages of 16 and 22, and not every time even then.

Why are you so concerned OP? Are you worried he’s going to develop a habit? Is he not helping you with the kids because of it? What’s the real issue? I’m genuinely interested, as this might help people answer your question

YANBU OP

I'd be furious if my DH was getting very drunk that frequently, especially if you are being inconvenienced by having to collect him and pick up the slack with the children if he's out of action the next day. He's not 19 years old (I assume) and really should have grown out of it by now

Are you concerned he is developing a drinking problem? I have zero tolerance for excessive drinking due to growing up with an alcoholic father so am possibly more sensitive than other people to this kind of situation

I'd be getting pissed more than that if I had some judgemental busy body telling me when I can drink and how much.

Are you always so controlling and judgmental?

That’s a lot of getting drunk. Is his tolerance for alcohol low due to not usually drinking much. How much does it take for him to get drunk?

Doesn’t sound like he has an alcohol problem though as he has just had a few binge drinking sessions in one month and doesn’t usually do this. I would only be pissed off if he was expecting me to look after him whilst drunk and he was unable to do his fair share of parenting the next day.

YANBU, it’s totally shit being around a drunk person and subsequently a deeply hungover one. A few incidences around Christmas or whenever is no big deal but your DH is well beyond a few cases of getting ratarsed. All the people calling you judgmental have clearly had a nerve hit. It’s actually shit being smashed around your partner even once though easily tolerated. But it’s smelly, vommitty, snorey etc. Not to mention the bullshit talk and higher possibility for arguments. YANBU.

Also, if we reword the OP, basically her husband went to a Christmas party and got pissed (who doesn't). Then on 4 occasions this month he had some drinks, once seemed tipsy and one went to bed early.

Then they had some drinks together one evening.

Am I the only one who thinks he's probably drank less than the majority of the UK over Christmas? I don't drink much but I'd definitely get drunk at a Christmas party, I'd happily have a few drinks with my DP and over Xmas I could easily cram in 4 more occasions where I'd have a few drinks? Whether it's seeing people for Xmas celebrations or just Xmas excitement!

YANBU, he's an adult fair enough getting occasional slightly ott especially at Christmas but that's excessive. He's an adult, presumably with kids, not a frat boy.

Also I'm sorry but when you're married and a grown up with responsibilities you can't spend an entire month getting wasted whenever you want and expecting your partner to pick up the slack.

YANBU. If his drinking is affecting his family, it's too much.

It doesn't seem that much to me, considering it's Christmas. I don't drink a lot normally, but I've probably drunk more than he has this month. Mind you, I haven't got so pissed that I needed to be taken home from a party, although I have rung my DH to come and collect me because the party's over.