To be sad...

[winteryslippers]

Or should I just snap out of it?

My four year old daughter whom I adore totally is a real daddy's girl.

She favours him completely and often tells me to go away and that she doesn't love me!

When he's not around she is loving etc - but when he's home from work she only wants him :-(

I know IABU to feel sad in the long run - but just occasionally (like today) it really breaks me.

Has anyone else had experience with a child favouriting the other parent?

It actually shows she has a more reassured relationship with you!! She has to keep seeking attention from df to confirm their relationship! Read an article once!!
Do some research to set your mind at rest op!!

I think its just a phase they go through as they get older, she will love you more when she understands the love of shopping with mummy 😀

My DD is a bit like this when DP gets home.. she is not two yet so has never said what ur DD has said but I get 'no mama!' If I go near her..
I'm a bit like whatever 😂 I could do with a break..
Try and take it with a pinch of salt she doesn't mean it

My XH moved out when my eldest was just over 1, and she went to live with him on her second birthday (severe chronic illness, and mental breakdown). She lived with him almost five years until he needed to be the 'absent' parent because of work issues (getting a job - she has additional needs and he was job searching and they kept getting sanctioned because he couldn't get places and take certain jobs because he had no support with her and was often in and out of her school daily to change her etc). I know my DC cried her eyes out everytime I'd visited and had to leave her, but in the short time between XH leaving and her moving in with him, she would constantly cry for him which made me feel awkward, she wasn't bothered about hugging me. Now that she's been back with me for over four years, it's always 'daddy is my favourite'. This is despite the fact that since she moved back in with me and her little sibling, his contact with her has gotten less and less. He didn't even see her in the summer holidays despite my asking him and her texting him. Sometimes it hurts. But I try and remember that she sees me all the time, she knows I'm here for her. Where as she is going to love her dad and miss him so much because he's the one who isn't here. It breaks my heart actually, and now that we've settled somewhere permanently I'm hoping he will seriously think about moving closer. I think it's just a bond thing, we often idolise what we know we can't have as much. Your DH probably works out of the house and therefore is idolised because he's not there to be taken for granted.

Thank you for your replies - xx