Christmas hell

[Jozimummy]

My DH hates Christmas. He just doesn’t see the point and would rather be somewhere hot and sunny and just ignore the whole thing. My mother died this year, followed two month later by my nephew aged 4 weeks. My daughter has developed chronic fatigue syndrome so we can’t fly anywhere and it’s really hard to think of somewhere to go on holiday. DH got home today for Christmas and has been grumpy all day and now just shouted at me for trying to make the one day of Christmas special instead of sorting out a holiday. I’m just not sure how to cope with a houseful of guests， a really sick child and absolutely no support. Please someone say something to help me keep going.

That sounds like a lot to cope with. The best I can say is that Christmas will be over in two short days from now. You can battle through and come out the other side.

Book him a holiday for one and enjoy it with your DD

I'm so sorry for your losses.
And I have m.e/cfs as well as fms. Your DD has my every sympathy, it's awful.
Your OH needs to appreciate that the world doesn't revolve around him. Doesn't he care about your DD? Or you - you need his support this Christmas.

You poor thing OP. Hugs

Maybe your DH can sit and complain with my DH have my own thread about this!

Is he always such a selfish arse?

I hate those moaning people, there's no reason why they cannot make an effort at least for one day. He can't expect you to do all the holiday planning & your daughter can't fly atm.

Tell him to jet off somewhere on his own and stop being such a bah humbug. He's spoiling it for everyone else.

Why can't he sort out a holiday?!

He's sounds very selfish. I think you need a few strong words about how you're feeling and what support you need. It's not just about his wants and needs!

Would your daughter be able to cope with a cruise?

I'd go on holiday on my own and ignore it all if I could. I think next year just send him off on his own.

Send him off to the nearest Travelodge It's going to be sunny on Christmas Day...

That's pretty shit OP - but why is expecting you to book a holiday - on the 23rd?? It's a bit bloody late now, and why the hell can't he do it?

I think you have enough on your plate without your husband acting like a prick. Tell him to stop whining and support you or piss off on his own.

Bloody hell op. Are you 2 a team or 2 separate players? What a horrendous time you've had of late. What would you like to do over Christmas? Celebrate surviving? Salute the sadly missed? Muddle through? And what of your daughter? Grief, survival and celebration are hugely difficult to coincide. He is surely suffering too, but communicate please. If you want different things, go for it or compromise. Don't guess or go it alone you have enough on your plate. I'm sending you much love and hope v

My dad was like that. It made Christmases really shit.