Dsd has just arrived for the Xmas period and has announced she was christened today. Dps ex is somewhat difficult in every situation possible.
To the point she stopped contact when they split, refused mediation.. Resulting in dp taking her to court for his access.. To the point in court this year for the 2nd time she said ' he is not having dd at Xmas or boxing day over my dead body. But he can new year as I've made plans ' the judge then said pardon? She repeated and he actually then gave dp 23rd till 27th this year as he wasn't impressed. ..(then alternative Xmas and boxing from then on.)
He pays her cms plus uniforms Activities and extras she requests from him and rightly so, she's both their responsibility (although she once said she needed 45 for a sch trip. He gave 45 to her and turns out dsd said She didn't go on trip as mummy had no money! So no idea where the 45 went.? . ) - now he pays sch directly for any activities
However it really grates me that she never even so much as discusses anything with dp to get some sort of higher ground Im not sure? Or to think she's coming between us as often says ' snowy will never be a SM to MY daughter even when you're married' she's now constantly badgering for our wedding date.
She recently tried to say dsd wasn't his.. We paid out for dna. She told the school not to give info on Xmas play that he had no PR. So he had to take her birth cert and his ID to prove otherwise. It just gets me down so much.
She got dsd ear pierced without asking him or running by him.
I keep thinking what if we had got her christened. Or what if we got her ears pierced. Without consulting her? All hell would break out.
I thought after 3 years this may of stopped.
The thing is when she did ear piercings dp did send a message stating he would like to of been consulted however its now done etc.
She tries to get a reaction but he won't now as its stupid games.
Does this ever stop?
My ds has a SM and she's lovely. Admittedly haven't seen eye to eye all the time about parenting techniques but we spoke and found a middle ground. But then again me and my ex are amicable for ds sake even Though there was DV badly.
Please tell me it gets better or do some have crap luck with exes forever. ?
We do now ignore her., not bite or anything as we had previously admittedly at the beginning.
Hopev I haven't missed anything but I'm just so agitated i needed to vent