To start a PIL appreciation thread

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To counteract all of the Cunty Christmas PIL threads?

Mine are fab!

They've asked when THEY can slot in with US over Christmas...

Surely I can't be the only person in here who loves their PIL to bits?

I love mine too! Gorgeous people, always asking what they can do to help and understanding the challenges of daily life: as a result I adore them, as do the DCs.

Sadly mine are no longer here but they were great, I loved them dearly. I am a MIL myself now and hope I am doing as good a job as they did.

I absolutely love them too!! They are so so nice and always there for us

MIL is a gem. I think she probably does bitch about me behind my back as she bitches about a lot of people to me but she is lovely to me and is such a kind, fun and loving grandma to my kids. She will always offer advice if I need it but has never tried to take over in the crazy ways you read about on here! When DH isn’t around I enjoy her company and we will happily go for coffee. My DHs grandparents are also the best, pretty much most of my ILs I do like a lot, we don’t live in each other’s pockets and see each other maybe once a month or so which I think helps.
The less said about FIL (divorced from MIL) the better, though 😂

Love mine too. They are meant to be coming for Christmas and may not be able to now. I am genuinely disappointed.

I adore mine.
They drive me insane, but they are the most loving well meaning people ever.
For the first time in 8 years were spending Christmas with them. They don't 'do' presents for adults so I figured I'd work around the rules to align our Christmas's a little.
Welcome basket for their arrival, hot chocolate set with mugs, tea tray, smelliest and a bell saying 'ring for tea'
They also have stockings with their names - all gifts inside are NOT presents from us on account of Santa brings that ;)
Finally there's an artist I know my MIL likes so I bought their Christmas crackers.
FIL loves my vol ah vonts which are an utter pain in the arse to make...but here I am 6 supermarkets later clutching pastry cases and cooking a ham and chicken to stuff.
I want them to know I appreciate everything they have done for us, and now times are harder for them we are there for them.

Both mine are lovely. FIL is a bit in your face and everything is what suits him. But
He’s kind.
MIL is amazing I tell her everything and she never judges. She’s there when I call and offers non judgements I love her.

My Mil is the best!
She loves the time she spends with family but wouldnt dream of being pushy about it. She's a hugger, and always squeezes me with a lovely to see you Carrot.
We are going out to lunch over the hols, no men allowed

We had a baby last week, the first DGC in the family. My PIL have been wonderful slotting in when they can see us, not being pushy, and generally being very kind and supportive. I am sure they are itching to see the baby as much as possible but they are being so sensitive to our space 💗

You are all so lucky!!

AmIAWeed thats lovely.

Mine are/were great. We lost MIL around 9 years ago before we even married but she was lovely and welcoming. FIL still hosts Christmas for everyone every year (with lots of help). This year he is not at all well but insists we are all still there. Christmas day is bonkers with 9 grandchildren and the four siblings and partners but everyone gets on and mucks in. My children are the youngest and the older cousins always spend loads of time playing with them and including them. This may be our last Christmas with FIL and I treasure so many memories from over the years.

I dunno my MIL bought me milk chocolate digestives this morning when she brought over and cooked breakfast for us when clearly dark chocolate are better

Mine are brill.
They also produced an awesome son

Mine are also lovely. They look after my children, love them, don’t overstep boundaries, buy me beautiful gifts, gave us the deposit for our flat and take us on holiday.

I love them both dearly.

My MIL is lovely. FIL is sadly in a care home this year as his dementia is so bad so MIL came today to stay (she only lives 5 minutes away, but she's really hating being on her own). She spoils the kids, lets them away with all sorts and makes DH more cups of tea than I think he shold allow (he should blimming be making them for her), but I wouldn't have it any other way as she's happy and is a lovely woman.

I had shit parents and was brought up by my grandparents. I didn't have great reference points as a mother, but she's been a great help when I've needed it (mostly in telling me I'm doing a good job).

And we're really missing FIL. A lot

YABU. You’re all lucky buggers

Lovely thread

My PIL are no longer with us but they were great, left without childcare one holiday week after my dh and stepmum had to go away for a family emergency, mil was on the ferry next morning, same after dd2 was born, I'd had a section, dh had started a new job and had taken as much time off as he could, dd1 went down with chicken pox and stepmum had shingles, she was on the ferry next morning and stayed for 10 days.

Talked dh through cooking xmas dinner when I woke up.with flu one year, she was too frail to the cooking herself and dh had never cooked a roast dinner!

Key recurring things appear to be not pushy and being able to have one on one time together to bond.
My SIL is the scary one but I've found our relationship has hugely improved since we started doing the odd thing together on visits.
Here's to all the awesome PIL showing us how to do it well

Can’t wait for Christmas Day at my PIL - they are amazing!!! We will be fed, my DCs will be loved, and I can spend the day in my PJs without being judged!

We stopped in at pil yesterday after an hour of driving, before continuing on to my dm a further 4 hours (+stops) driving.

We were offered tea and cake, and mil, who doesn't even like dogs, played ball with our dog in the garden for a bit to tire him out for the journey.

My PIL are great - so considerate, kind, helpful. They moved much closer to us recently and it’s lovely to see them more, but they really respect boundaries as well. I feel very lucky.

My mother is another kettle of fish altogether.

Not married, but I love my partner's dad. He's such a sweet, kind and clever man, and he's really interesting to talk to. Great sense of humour too. Multiple health issues but always tries to do the best he can to help others. A true diamond..

My partner's mum is lovely too. Suitably mad and easy to talk to. I don't know her as well as his dad as she lives too far away to visit regularly but I've never had anything but a good feeling from her.

Love them both. Between them they made the other half of me, so how could I not?

What a lovely thread. And it's nice to be reminded.

I have my moments with in laws, but broadly I think MIL is fantastic. And importantly, she is a truly fantastic grandmother - spends hours chatting to the children on Skype or playing whatever random game they're into when she sees them. She's also very accommodating to us and what we need when we're at hers, and very hospitable. I always feel very comfortable in her house.

And while I wouldn't have become close to her otherwise, I have got to the point where I genuinely am happy to spend time with her one on one. When she's here it always lands up being me who spends time with her taking her shopping or for brunch (she LOVES brunch for some reason) and I'm always quite happy to do it and we chat away happily for hours. And I don't mind if DH is working so that her and I are together with the kids because she's always willing to give things a go and is supportive of the kids.

I consider myself very lucky. My sister had absolutely hideous In Laws (twice).

Rest of DH' family are also lovely, and I'm close with SIL now.