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AIBU and over sensitive or is this just a bit off?

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Hurryupandcome · 23/12/2018 19:39

Helped my boyfriend of 6 months move flat today. He's lived there for the past 4 years and he mentioned afterwards he felt quite sad about leaving and then said he was thinking of creating a Facebook post thanking his current and past flatmates for the great times he's had there and then proceeds to list them....and within the names he mentions a girl who he slept with on and off for 3 years. They were never in a relationship but enjoyed great sex. When i said 'oh but she was never your flatmate' he said yeh but we spent a lot of time in my room. I said that I thought that was a bit weird to thank her amongst them and he said yeh you're right.

AIBU to feel quite wtf about this or should I just get over it?

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WisdomOfCrowds · 23/12/2018 21:31

If someone I used to casually sleep with made a fb post publically thanking me for the memories I'd cringe myself to death and then delete him. Inevitably others will comment saying "huh? X was never your flat mate?" And then he'll reply as he did to you "no, but we spent a lot of time IN MY ROOM . It's sooo creepy.

BrendasUmbrella · 23/12/2018 21:43

He's 31? When I read your post I thought he would be about a decade younger. Well as you say, he has an immature mindset. That will probably end up annoying you in a variety of ways.

wheneverythinggoestitsup · 23/12/2018 21:44

Exactly what @WisdomOfCrowds said!

So bloody weird. I'd think he wanted her attention again otherwise just no!!
Id be mortified if someone I used to sleep with tagged me in something like that on Facebook!!

JennyHolzersGhost · 23/12/2018 21:51

He sounds immature and too over familiar on social media.

Hurryupandcome · 23/12/2018 22:01

Weirdly he doesn't post much on social media ever. And doubt he'll post anything about this after our conversation. He's said sorry a few times so guess there's not much I can do apart from move on and see I suppose.

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Ellegeebee · 23/12/2018 22:35

I think he was trying you get a reaction out of you, trying to test you to see how you’d react, he sounds insecure and immature.

Slothslothsloth · 23/12/2018 23:30

It’s not a dealbreaker by any means OP, but I’d be on the alert for other signs of... whatever this is... (immaturity? Thoughtlessness? Negging you? Keeping his options open? I don’t even know, but it’s nothing good!).

iamthewalrusgoogoogjoob · 24/12/2018 02:55

I'd end it with anyone who felt the need to post attention grabbing shite on social media.

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