Friend thinks this holiday is weird.

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I am female, I have a male DP. My DP has a sister who is gay, lets call her DP Claire. We all get on really well and see each other at least once a month.
Me and Claire are going away for a long weekend together. We were both keen to visit particular place and are good friends.
My friend thinks its weird as she said I wouldn't be going if sisters DP was a man.
Now I'm wondering what other people think ? This is okay isn't it?

So would she think the same if DP had a brother and it was his male partner?

The only weird one here is her.

Bonkers. This is the very definition of overthinking.

Oh just imagine if Susan had somehow "turned" Emily?
Ross would have even more of a complex.
Women give up men altogether in order to get away from him.

My DH has. Brother. His brother is straight and has a DP. DH and BIL would not bat an eyelid if me and SIL went away for the weekend. Actually they’d be quite happy that we got along. Why should it be different because you (technically) have a SIL instead of a BIL

Is your friend worried that you might catch Clare’s gayness? Or that you won’t be able to control your desires when you’re alone together?

Your friend is an utter twuntbucket.

Go and have fun with Clare, be she gay, straight, female, male or anything else.

It's not weird at all. I think it's great you get on and have similar interests.

Your friend is the weird one in the story

Nuts. Your friend is weird and stupid. It shouldn’t matter if DP had a sister or brother. Gay or straight or bi. If you get in and have thingin common inc friends you want to visit it’s totally normal. I have a male friend of 30 yrs regularly see and we have gone to mutual friend Ed’s weddings together leaving partners at home with kids cos of expense etc inc shared rooms. We have had same comments. People assume it’s odd or something could happen. We have been pals for thirty years. If nothing happened between us when we were teens or in our twenties when young single flat mates and often drunk why hell would happen now!

Your friend is warped. She’d have no problems with you taking a break with a straight sil but a Gay sil causes her issues! She is warped and homophobic.

Nothing weird about it at all! It’s lovely that you get on so well.

I can see her point, to be fair. If you were going on holiday with a man I think the responses would be different – when that question comes up on these threads there's always a fair amount of 'Well I wouldn't do it' and 'I wouldn't go anywhere without my husband' and 'You can't ever fully trust a man and a woman on their own' etc etc.

FWIW I'm in the camp that believes that people can absolutely be friends without it necessarily turning into a sexual thing, and I personally don't think it's weird what you're doing. I just don't think the friend here is alone in her attitude.

If you were going on holiday with a man I think the responses would be different

Well yeah, because the op is straight and some idiots don't believe straight men and women can be just friends.

Gay isn't friggen catching. And so what if the op was gay or bi. Doesn't mean you'd shag anyone of the right sex.

If you were going on holiday with a man I think the responses would be different

But she isn't going away with a man. She is going away with a female friend who is also her SIL. What's weird about going away with your sister in law?

Yep your friend is homophobic

so what if the op was gay or bi. Doesn't mean you'd shag anyone of the right sex.
No, I agree. I thought I made that clear in my first post.
And as for gay not being catching, again, yes I know. I think the friend here is probably imagining the other woman coming on to the OP, not necessarily thinking she'd suddenly 'turn' and reciprocate.

Unless OP friend thinks lesbians aren't allowed to have female friends

What's weird about going away with your sister in law?
My post says I DO NOT think it's weird what she's doing. I just said that some people do.

Most lesbians have straight friends. This is such an outdated attitude.

Weird attutude. You're lucky to have a nice travelling companion, go and enjoy yourself.

It's fine. You're both just friends.

so your friend thinks that your morals are so rubbish that you’ll have a dalliance with your SIL’s partner while you are away - some friend!

Ask your friend if your sister was actually your brother whether she’d then have an issue with you doing something with your SIL Claire... I suspect not.

I don’t think it’s weird but I’d wonder why Claire’s partner wasn’t coming too
Ops dh isnt going either is that strange too?
Couples aren't joined at the hip they can have different interests and dont have to tag along to something they have no interest in.

If your dp wanted to go somewhere/see something you hated would you go just because you think he shouldnt go anywhere without you?
Ffs!

And if OPs partner was a women, they probably wouldn't be together. And if her friend was a man, they probably wouldn't be friends and this query would have never been raised. There's really no point saying what if, is there?

I dunno op sounds like she’s a sex fiend. Watch out for her ‘accidentally’ booking a double room instead of a single and other sitcom style shenanigans

Maybe OP friend is a sex fiend if she's thinking such things Maybe she's angling for an invite to what she imagines will be a very interesting trip.