To accept an afterthought invitation?

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So, a friend/acquaintance (hard to tell which, known for years, live local but don’t see that often) has a Christmas party every year. We have been previously but not for the last few years. I think they stopped inviting us to their parties because we never have parties at ours (DH just isn’t comfortable with the idea, he’s a bit socially anxious) anyway my DH bumped into her DP the other day and they were chatting about Xmas...her DP then asked if we were going to their Xmas party. This morning I got a text from her inviting us, which I assume has only come because her DP has dropped her in it by mentioning it! I didn’t know about DH/DP conversation so accepted but now I feel like she probably hadn’t planned to invite us 😐 do we just go along and enjoy it or make an excuse not to go?

You go and enjoy yourself. I have no issue at all with late or substitute invitations and have often had lots of fun when we weren’t expecting to do anything.

If you don’t host yourself take an extra hostess gift. It’s always appreciated.

It might have been an oversight.

Go, if you wanted to and enjoy yourself.

Do you take bottles/gifts?

Also, who cares if you wasn't on the A list.

You've got to limit numbers at house parties and a B list is usual.

If you think you would enjoy it, go.

If it's an annual thing, they won't only be choosing guests who invite them back.... not everyone does parties, I've never done one in my life at Christmas. Perhaps they just forgot to include you the last few times? I'd take a decent bottle and go if you've enjoyed it before.

If you want to go then go. It's probably not a big deal to them who goes or doesn't go, they just enjoy having people over. Have a good time!

You don't do parties and that's fine. But do you host in other ways? Ask them round for a takeaway and drinks? Cook them lunch? Ask them out for a meal that you pay for? We have lots of meals and bbq at ours and it does feel like a bit of a slight when it's never reciprocated in any way

I’m always generous with wine/food if we get invited anywhere as I’m very aware we don’t return invitations. So yes if we go I will take plenty with us.